hi, missflip. i have bi-polar 2, as well. i have seen my positive happy-go-lucky husband turn into a tired sometimes over-whelmed, quicker to anger person. i almost think mental illness is "contagious". when 1 member of a family becomes mentally ill, those around him/her can tend to be dragged down too. i cant stand what i feel i have done to my husband, who is the love of my life. i dont really think hes depressed, but i do think hes just got too much on his plate. its not your fault if he is anxious and depressed. im so glad hes getting the professional help hes needs. theres only so much you can do. if your illness is under control this may be your chance to turn the table and be supportive of him. encourage him to find a hobby. i got my husband golf clubs a couple of years ago and i encourage him to play as often as possible. that has helped alot. after he has golfed, hes always more relaxed, at least for a while. do you have a hobby? maybe you could find something you both like to do. my husband and i are starting ballroom dance classes soon. we also try to go to movies fairly often. just spending positive time together helps. there may be no "cure" for you or your husband, but seeking the help that you both have and taking any meds. that you both might need is a HUGE step in getting better. you may feel better about yourself if you are able to help him. (getting my husband those clubs was about the best thing ive ever done for him).good luck to both of you and i hope you can both be strong for each other. dont forget to take care of yourself, too!