Geez, I don't even remember the last time I posted here - it's been THAT long...
Last I was here, I had made my husband move out to get his sh!t together - while he was out, he had a couple of drinking slips (once my sister caught him at the bar), so basically I went to him and just said "this is it" - i made him make a choice right then and there, no thinking about it, on whether he wanted to stay married, etc... well he chose to stay and at that point I said "fine, well then what are you going to do to keep us (me and the kids)" and he came up with a plan... a month later he moved back in and is a completely different person. If I didn't see it myself every single day, I would never believe he would honestly change - but he has. He takes his meds as regularly as he can remember - which makes a big difference, and he is just wonderful now. He found a job making really good money with a guarantee of 4 years work (as long as he doesn't screw it up) - but he really seems more grounded now. I think being out on his own made him realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. He got a taste of the "single" life again, and he found it quite lonely!
I can only hope and pray that this continues for as long as possible - but to his credit, he's seeing a psychologist, psychiatrist, fam doc, drug and alcohol counsellor AND mental health case worker - so between all that, he's seeing someone at least once a week... sometimes 2 a week. He's even just sat there while our kids crawl all over him - something that would have made him blow up once upon a time!!!!!!!!!
I do know that this wonderful time may not last forever - but he's really serious about staying well and is doing his part of staying healthy!
SO THERE IS HOPE FOR ALL OF YOU OUT THERE WITH BP SPOUSES - THEY CAN CHANGE!!!
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