Life problems getting overwhelming. What do I do next?

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_Christina
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   Posted 8/28/2009 11:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Please, oh please, oh please...... I don't know what to ask for..... I ache in my chest I am so blue...... I don't know what to do..... I don't see my way out..... I know there is one..... I just want someone to tell me what to do......something I can do...... I feel out of control.....
 
 I wish I was more in control of my feelings, or even knew what the triggers were so that I could learn to control them.  Feburary 2007 I had the final breakdown of a long slide of depresson.  I spent time out of work, friends came and took my kids and my husband took time off of work so that I was never alone.  That was when I began seeing a Pdoc and began the process of finding the right medication coktail. In August 2007 I left my fulltime job to begin fulltime school.  I found funding to replace my income, but we put a lot of funding to send me to school.  Feburary 2008 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis after spending a few months in constant midgrade pain.  By August 2008 I was in so much pain I was on near constant narcotics and stopped taking classes.  I am still trying to find the right coktail of medications to limit pain without knocking me out of life.
 
I have not brought in an income for a full year now.  My husband works fulltime and overtime at a hospital, and I care for my 3 schoolage daughters.  Try as I might, I have not yet found the strength to keep up with the care of the house.  I feel like I push myself harder than I ever did when I was working, but I can't ever do enough.  The house is always messy and I the girls complain that I never play with them anymore. We cut our expences to a tiny fraction, but we still end up with a desifit every month.  My list of medications and doctors visits cost a lot even though we only pay insurance copays.  My school loans have come due- and we do not have the additional income we counted on to repay them. We even took out a loan to cover the desifet each month, and it worked for a little bit- but it is gone now.
 
My Pdoc says that if I was to get a job I would quickly "crash and burn" from the additional stress.  I agree- I don't think I am doing a very good job with daily life now.  I am afraid of getting a job and loosing the small steps of improvement I have accomplished.  I tried to apply for disability payments- but they concluded that I could go get a parttime job in retail (what I did before my last job) and so I don't qualify for disability.  I disagree.  (well I guess I could go get the job, but would fall apart after just a few weeks.  I don't think I would last 3 months, and then need months and months to recover.) My mother-in-law feels that I should be able to handle a job for just a few hours a week(3-4 hours 1-2 days a week durring school) but with the students in town (we have 4 colleges in town) all of the part-time jobs are taken up.  (it's easer to get a job in the summer than the fall here) and there are lots of under-employed people in our area taking up the easier jobs in town.  I don't think I could get hired with my restrictions.
 
I see my Pdoc on Tuesday to discuss if I should try again to get disability.  I called an advocate and was turned down because of the wording of my Pdoc's instructions not to work.  I hope that she will change the wording, get the advocate and try again.  I have 40 days to submit the forms needed.  I applied for foodstamps today- but since my husbasband works so many extra hours we only qualify for tiny amounts of help.  The don't consider that so much of it goes to pay for medical bills.  (I don't have large spending bills because I have VERY limited access to money)
 
Right now the most comforting thing I can do is wrap my arms tightly arround the ache in my chest and rock in my rocking chair.  My husband is so great at simply accepting that I am in a hard place right now, and I am working to get better- but I can see that the stress is wearing him down.  He doesn't see me getting much better and I'm sure that he thought it would not take this long.  He is bipolar too, but is sooo good at controling himself it doesn't seem like he struggles with it at all.  He says that I just need to figure out coping skills and move on.  I try but I can't seem to control myself from slipping up.
 
What I can't get over it that I feel out of control of my thoughts and emotions.  When I feel good I can't seem to remember what it was like to struggle.  I feel like I just overreacted and need to just forget the whole thing.  When I feel bad I can't see a way that I might feel better.  I have no faith that things will look up sometime later.  I just need to hang on- but it is sooo hard in the middle of it all.  I just don't see the way out.
 
I have rambled on and on- but I feel like if I get it all out someone might understand what is inside and give me some clues on what to do next.   
 Christina
Even though I do not understand where I am going on the path that God has laid out for me, I must submit to His plan and trust that He will take me where I need to be. 
 
Current medications:
Bipolar treatment-Lamictal, 200mg, Mood stabelizer, daily(main side effect: brain fog) Bipolar treatment-Cymbalta, 40mg, Antidepressant, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting, insominia) Anemia, Fatigue treatment- Iron supplement, 65mg, daily(main side effect: constipation) Insominia treatment- Ambien, 10mg, daily(main side effect: amnesia eppisodes between taking pill and falling asleep) Mania treatment- Alprazolam, .25mg, Very rarely(main side effect: fatigue, slowing of thoughts, depression of CNS, can't take ambien or vicodin when on it) RA treatment- Plaquenil, 400mg, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting) RA treatment- Methotrexate, 25mg, 1X weekly(main side effects: hair loss, stomach upset, mouth sores, sore muscles, fatigue, brain fog, compromised immune system, decreased Folic Acid absorption) GI upset treatment- Leucovorin Calcium, 10mg 1x weekly(main side effects: ?) Folic Acid defintioncy- Folic Acid, 1mg, daily(main side effects: ?) Multi-mineral Supplement (main side effects: constipation, GI upset) Constipation treatment- Docusate Sodium, 200mg, daily(main side effects:?) pain control- Motrin, 800mg, PRN Q6hours daily(main side effects: GI upset, decreased clotting) Pain Control- Vicodin, 5-500mg, PRN Q12hours 3-4 times weekly (main side effects: brain fog, fatigue)
 
 
 
 


serafena
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   Posted 8/28/2009 9:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Christina,

I'm sorry you're hurting so badly. Wish I could help.

Definitely reapply for disability. They turn just about everyone down the first time. Collect all your documentations from all your docs, and best of luck to you!

Serafena
Serafena
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Bipolar II


_Christina
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   Posted 8/29/2009 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
today is a bit better- I am still down, but now wallowing in it like I was yesterday. Right after posting this my husband woke up from sleeping off a night shift. He took me back to bed with him and I cried/slept for an hour or so. Once the kids got home I had an easier time picking up and moving. I have to admit it does make me feel a bit better to get moving.
Today is a housework day for the kids- I have to manage it.
Thank you
 Christina
Even though I do not understand where I am going on the path that God has laid out for me, I must submit to His plan and trust that He will take me where I need to be. 
 
Current medications:
Bipolar treatment-Lamictal, 200mg, Mood stabelizer, daily(main side effect: brain fog) Bipolar treatment-Cymbalta, 40mg, Antidepressant, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting, insominia) Anemia, Fatigue treatment- Iron supplement, 65mg, daily(main side effect: constipation) Insominia treatment- Ambien, 10mg, daily(main side effect: amnesia eppisodes between taking pill and falling asleep) Mania treatment- Alprazolam, .25mg, Very rarely(main side effect: fatigue, slowing of thoughts, depression of CNS, can't take ambien or vicodin when on it) RA treatment- Plaquenil, 400mg, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting) RA treatment- Methotrexate, 25mg, 1X weekly(main side effects: hair loss, stomach upset, mouth sores, sore muscles, fatigue, brain fog, compromised immune system, decreased Folic Acid absorption) GI upset treatment- Leucovorin Calcium, 10mg 1x weekly(main side effects: ?) Folic Acid defintioncy- Folic Acid, 1mg, daily(main side effects: ?) Multi-mineral Supplement (main side effects: constipation, GI upset) Constipation treatment- Docusate Sodium, 200mg, daily(main side effects:?) pain control- Motrin, 800mg, PRN Q6hours daily(main side effects: GI upset, decreased clotting) Pain Control- Vicodin, 5-500mg, PRN Q12hours 3-4 times weekly (main side effects: brain fog, fatigue)
 
 
 
 


cbear
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Date Joined May 2009
Total Posts : 138
   Posted 8/30/2009 9:54 AM (GMT -7)   
it sounds to me like your bi-polar is not under control. you said you are going to a pdr. are you being completely honest with him/her. i think sometimes we seem to appear more in control when we are meeting with our drs. also, please dont give up on disability. it sounds as if you are a perfect candidate for it. you can find books on how to improve your chances of getting it. good luck.

serafena
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   Posted 9/1/2009 7:42 AM (GMT -7)   
How you doing _christina?

serafena
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Bipolar II


_Christina
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   Posted 9/1/2009 3:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Doing Ok. Typing on my phone- so have to be quick. If I can get my computer to work I have some details to share. Feeling good today. Hubby took me to the gym- that felt good. Saw my Pdoc today and see my Rheumatologist tomorrow. Will add more when I can.
 Christina
Even though I do not understand where I am going on the path that God has laid out for me, I must submit to His plan and trust that He will take me where I need to be. 
 
Current medications:
Bipolar treatment-Lamictal, 200mg, Mood stabelizer, daily(main side effect: brain fog) Bipolar treatment-Cymbalta, 40mg, Antidepressant, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting, insominia) Anemia, Fatigue treatment- Iron supplement, 65mg, daily(main side effect: constipation) Insominia treatment- Ambien, 10mg, daily(main side effect: amnesia eppisodes between taking pill and falling asleep) Mania treatment- Alprazolam, .25mg, Very rarely(main side effect: fatigue, slowing of thoughts, depression of CNS, can't take ambien or vicodin when on it) RA treatment- Plaquenil, 400mg, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting) RA treatment- Methotrexate, 25mg, 1X weekly(main side effects: hair loss, stomach upset, mouth sores, sore muscles, fatigue, brain fog, compromised immune system, decreased Folic Acid absorption) GI upset treatment- Leucovorin Calcium, 10mg 1x weekly(main side effects: ?) Folic Acid defintioncy- Folic Acid, 1mg, daily(main side effects: ?) Multi-mineral Supplement (main side effects: constipation, GI upset) Constipation treatment- Docusate Sodium, 200mg, daily(main side effects:?) pain control- Motrin, 800mg, PRN Q6hours daily(main side effects: GI upset, decreased clotting) Pain Control- Vicodin, 5-500mg, PRN Q12hours 3-4 times weekly (main side effects: brain fog, fatigue)
 
 
 
 


_Christina
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Date Joined Feb 2007
Total Posts : 553
   Posted 9/3/2009 6:55 AM (GMT -7)   

The internet is back up, so I came back to see what is going on.

I talked with my psy on tuesday and she is going to write another letter to go with my re-app for social security disability.  When I told her what the decision was she laughed at them.  I should get the letter this week and get the paperwork started.

I tried to describe what was going on in me to a couple of ladies at church last night.

I'm sorry, I feel kind of destracted right now.  Like I can't finish my thought before the next topic starts up.  I guess I'm not very controlled right now.  I still need to take my AM mrds, so maybe that willl help.  I'll finish later.


 Christina
Even though I do not understand where I am going on the path that God has laid out for me, I must submit to His plan and trust that He will take me where I need to be. 
 
Current medications:
Bipolar treatment-Lamictal, 200mg, Mood stabelizer, daily(main side effect: brain fog) Bipolar treatment-Cymbalta, 40mg, Antidepressant, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting, insominia) Anemia, Fatigue treatment- Iron supplement, 65mg, daily(main side effect: constipation) Insominia treatment- Ambien, 10mg, daily(main side effect: amnesia eppisodes between taking pill and falling asleep) Mania treatment- Alprazolam, .25mg, Very rarely(main side effect: fatigue, slowing of thoughts, depression of CNS, can't take ambien or vicodin when on it) RA treatment- Plaquenil, 400mg, daily(main side effect: GI upset, decreased clotting) RA treatment- Methotrexate, 25mg, 1X weekly(main side effects: hair loss, stomach upset, mouth sores, sore muscles, fatigue, brain fog, compromised immune system, decreased Folic Acid absorption) GI upset treatment- Leucovorin Calcium, 10mg 1x weekly(main side effects: ?) Folic Acid defintioncy- Folic Acid, 1mg, daily(main side effects: ?) Multi-mineral Supplement (main side effects: constipation, GI upset) Constipation treatment- Docusate Sodium, 200mg, daily(main side effects:?) pain control- Motrin, 800mg, PRN Q6hours daily(main side effects: GI upset, decreased clotting) Pain Control- Vicodin, 5-500mg, PRN Q12hours 3-4 times weekly (main side effects: brain fog, fatigue)
 
 
 
 


serafena
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 3715
   Posted 9/3/2009 8:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Good to hear from you. I hope you keep doing ok. Good luck with the SSD! That can be such a pain, but if it helps you, it's worth the struggle.

serafena
Serafena
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum
Bipolar II

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