How do I get a wife to seek help

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keepinghope
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   Posted 8/31/2009 6:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I am the spouse of a bipolar wife, that thinks nothing is wrong with her but she has had an naffair with someone 17 years junior, filed for a divorce refuse to discuss divorce with myself or kids, also suffers from crohns disease, has been mentally diconnected for 4 years has communication problems at work as well. refuse to take crohns meds. How can I get her to seek help before the family is devistated because of her actions and loss of the home from divorce. any suggestions would be appreciated
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serafena
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   Posted 9/1/2009 7:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry keepinghope,

I wish I had something more to offer, but you really can only press her to go to a psychiatrist. She needs medical attention if she has bipolar.

Good luck,
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ImDealing
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   Posted 9/1/2009 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I am really sorry that you and your girls are going through this. I notice that your previous posts run along the same theme as this one ... she refuses to get help, you are the enemy, she doesn't care about the impact of the kids.

I and my daughter are at the beginning of a divorce driven by my BP spouse. I am not dealing with all the same aspects you are, but can only tell you that sometimes the only thing you can do to stay sane is to let go.

In my opinion, if a person with BP refuses to get treatment, there is little to nothing that you can do to help the situation. If she is not a danger to herself or others, then she is free to act in whatever manner she likes, regardless of the incredible pain it causes others.

You wanted advice: Write her a letter letting her know how much you care for her and want her to be in your life once she gets treatment ... and then let go. If you stop trying to get back with her, get some help, and start moving on, she might, just might, start to realize what she is losing.

Take care of yourself, take care of your girls. Get counseling as needed. Find joys in your life with your children, discover the good things inside or yourself. As painful as the process is, eventually things start to get a little better.

serafena
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   Posted 9/1/2009 7:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Excellent advice Imdealing!
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keepinghope
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   Posted 9/2/2009 1:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I did this during councilling but it did nothing do to her infatuation with this young guy, now the bind is if I stop doing things it will be used against me in court. Once the kids decide to say where they wish to live things will change very fast because there will be no home, everyone will be moving. I blame alot of it on crohns doctors for not supplying her councilling of what to expect from the disease. If she would have moved out of the home everyone could have delt with things differently, but she feels everything is hers, she has filled a walk in closet in 7 months with clothes to accomodate the weight loss, and hides everything else.

Post Edited (keepinghope) : 9/2/2009 2:45:41 PM (GMT-6)


sukay
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   Posted 9/3/2009 12:26 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi keepinghope,

It sounds like your wife is in serious denial if she can let her actions disrupt her family life in this way and not care in the least.

I agree with the other posters.  You've done all you can.  Why should you waste your life on a person that doesn't even want to help themselves and take their own health seriously?  When she doesn't do that, if affects everyone around her in a devasting way.

I wish you wellness on YOUR road to recovery.

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