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Red_34
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   Posted 10/6/2009 7:30 AM (GMT -7)   
 
Now I found out yesterday that my daughters ex bipolar boyfriend is "going out" with one her friends.  This friend is not a close friend but they do talk on occasion (I've known this friend since she was 7 years old and in my girl scout troop).  This ex of my daughter's has some serious mental issues I believe.  I don't think it's just bipolar anymore.  I recently found out that he spent some time in a psychiatric center at the beginning of the year (not sure for what - could be for Bipolar).  And he even came to our house wanting a pearl necklace back that he gave my daughter - but the thing was is that he never gave her anything.  So what would you do?  Would you talk to the mother of this friend to give her a heads up about this boy?  Or just let things lay the way they are?  I am not sure if I am stepping outside my boundaries if I talk to this mother. 
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serafena
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   Posted 10/6/2009 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
I think it's alright to talk to the mother. It's not so much that he has mental Heath issues -- lots of people have those -- but the way he's treated your daughter has been pretty suspect. I would talk to the mother, but you should ask your daughter how she feels about this too.

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Red_34
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   Posted 10/6/2009 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
My daughter is the one that told me about it. She even mentioned that she was going to talk to this friend and tell her everything that has happened to her with this boy. I asked her if I should talk to her friends mother and she agreed that it might be for the best. But I was just not sure where I stood with this whole thing ya know?

On an offnote, I was talking to my daughter and I told her that NOW did she understand where I and her father were coming from when we were trying to give her advice on this boy. It wasn't just us that noticed something was off with him but everyone that was around my daughter noticed her whole attitude changed while she was going out with him. She became sullen and not her usual happy self. So she said, "I just didn't want to believe what everyone was trying to tell me."

So if I even if I mentioned this to the mother and she in turned talked to her daughter, I'm wondering if maybe this girl will have the same mentality as my daughter when it comes to this boy. He is a charmer to the girls and treats them nice but then there are just some things that are off about him. I know it could be the Bipolar and I accepted him for that because I know it isn't of his choosing. But the end result of his impulsive acts is what made us turn against him NOT the fact that he was Bipolar.

Sorry, I'm sort of rambling. This whole scenario has been playing on my mind for some time now and it just feels good to be able to talk to people that can give me more insight and/or offer advice.
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serafena
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   Posted 10/6/2009 8:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad everything worked out for the best with your daughter. She deserves better.

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