Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar forum.
I'm sure in his heart your husband is very thankful to have you, even if he can't show it all the time. I'm really glad to hear he's going to see a doc and get on some meds, because it really makes a huge difference in living with the disorder. It can take some time to find a med that works without side effects, but the journey is worth it.
I hope you find the community you need here, and let me urge you to try and find a counselor for yourself, because what you are living with is hard, and takes a toll on a person.
Good luck and welcome,
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum
"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER