Since I began posting and reading here I've noticed a lot of spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends writing about
their problems in dealing with the one they love and their struggles with the disorder.
Some are very interesting to read. But the majority are very upsetting. Upsetting because they scream co-dependency issues.
20 years into my 40 year journey I got some very serious counseling to avoid co-dependent women. I learned how the term first started with people dealing with alcoholism, then with drug addicts, abusive spouses, and yes, to any situation where there were issues of control and enabling.
Suffering from bi-polar I know full well that I, and others like me, have self-medication issues. My medication of choice was long periods of high-intensity exercise (endorphin addiction). But it was a problem nonetheless.
To all the Significant Others who are with somebody with BP, I challenge you to ask, "Am I part of the problem or part of the solution?" or even more to the point, "Why am I here?"
There have been about
a half a dozen posts from women over the last few weeks that have generated a severe flight response in me. They had co-dependent written all through them. And that to me meant, more problems, needless conflict, control, enabling, blame.
I was taught that I could never deal with my BP until I got co-dependant people out of my life. My teachers were correct.
So, look at a book on co-dependency and find out about
it. Look at your life -- was there physical, mental, emotional or substance abuse in your past? If you can't look at yourself this way, maybe talk with a counselor.
You may think you are part of the solution, but you may very well be part of the problem.
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OBB, your signature was removed because of length and is off-topic in this forum. I will explain in the PCa forum.
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