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Is Violence and Devorce the Spawn of BP?
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   Posted 12/21/2009 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Well I have a beautiful wife who was diagnosed with BP at about the age of 13, her parents did not continue treatment on her. When I was told of this illness I spent no time with it. We were young and havign child. My mistake not looking into it, my wife and I have had so many fights since, and we have had so many goodtime as well. Most resently my wife has been very symtomatic, but only until now did I listen to her mother who said shes Bipolar. Now that I have read up onthe symtoms and have a small understanding of them, yes my wife is BP. She has been spoken to by her parents that her most resent actions may be a result of BP I think she really heard them cause she has asked for help. So we have a Dr. visit set.
If I only knew what I know now, is my regret and failure, because it seems like her mother who was the blame of all my wifes problems in her teenage years, as my mother in law has put it, and now I have been the blame of my wife problems and have been for the last 2yrs. But now i say to myself it not my wife but the BP that drives her or is it? So we had 2 incidents one today and a small one yesterday. My biggest concern is could most of our fights been driven by BP? We fought over some realy stupid stuff and over some really sensitive stuff, and it seems she never really would budge to even try to see the issues differently, and hostility and rage were her only resort.  She's been big about leavign me these days to the extent of even saying she just want to be alone, we have two children together, she evens says i can keep the kids, rages about how her life is a waste, then a day or two later she is fine she seem coherent shows attention to our children, but then shes a rush to get out he door, short fused its never a consistant pattern and never apologizes for things she may have said or done all in these BP episodes.  Will I ever hear her say sorry for some of the thing shes done and said, or does BP take that too?
Is it that the people closest to BP person whether Mother, Father, Brother, Sister, Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Husband or Wife  fall victim  to BP and so much damage is done that the other victim reacts out of fear, wanting to do right, andsmhair the devorce, seperation becomes an option and is Violence adn Devorce the spawn of BP?

Post Edited (speeqtruth) : 12/22/2009 6:25:12 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/22/2009 11:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Living with someone who suffers from bipolar disorder presents a set of problems all its own. Here are some resources which might be useful for you.

The following books:

Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston
When Someone You Love Is Bipolar by Cynthia G. Last

The following websites:

Help For Surviving Your Spouse's Mental Illness

Bipolar Significant Others

The Bipolar Spouse

There is also a forum for significant others in NAMI's Online Communities

And one for family and friends at

And the Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group at Daily Strength.
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"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER

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   Posted 12/23/2009 8:43 PM (GMT -6)   
First of all, you are an amazing husband.  Just keep breathing and keep telling yourself it's the BP, not her when she goes off.  Once she sees a Dr and gets stabilized on meds then it'll be better.
BTW, I've been BP since I was a teenager (never medicated) and it was only after I became pregnant with my daughter that I began having rage issues.  Hormones are evil I tell ya!
Hang in there!
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