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   Posted 3/9/2010 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Ok well here it is my new Hubby of 3 months is already tired of me.  I feel very safe with him and yet he has hurt me emotionally by his x wife that I am angry every time her name comes up I just feel this rage come over me.  By being on the lithium I am able to control my overly opinionated self and not go into complete pissed stage.  Sometimes he is so focused on my disorder since it was newely discovered because I flipped out brought on by xwife drama.  I feel he is partly responsiable for my flip as this has not happened before I am usually mania all the way.  If he would have stopped her crap before then my trip might not of happened as bad as it did.  I love him and need him as I am finding I am very co-dependant on him, but he makes comments like I was the worst mistake of his life.  He loves me but can't live with me everyday is a rollercoaster.  He wants me then I am stressing his life out.  What is love truely I thought when u truely love someone I thought u try to make sure that person is your priority.  I feel like his problem instead.

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   Posted 3/9/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -6)   


  I am becoming more and more convinced that we of the bipolar group are very very fragile when it comes to the emotional swings of those we love. We do depend on them to provide a rock for us to anchor ourselves to help keep us under control. When they act out and take away that rock we are cast adrift (sorry for all the naudical themes smilewinkgrin )  I know i am very very dependent on my wife having a stable state and when she isnt, i suffer very badly from that. I feel unloved, betrayed, lost, alone, depressed, sucididal, the works.

   You two just got married and are facign a crisis. This is going to be a time of big swings and emotional turmoil as you not only learn to live with each other, but with the 800 lbs gorilla in the room (Bipolar).  Can you do it, YES. But you will both need to get some help, therpay, and do your best to let slights and hurts slide off your soul  and not stain it for the future. I'm ADD which i believe helps a lot here because i can never remember what i was supposed to be angry about to begin with. LOL tongue smilewinkgrin wink  LOL

   Just hang in there, and keep talking. You can get thru this.


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Date Joined Jan 2009
Total Posts : 620
   Posted 3/9/2010 10:10 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with Bill...we Bipolars are very sensitive to the emotional
vibrations of others and are very empathic. I also would suggest
therapy...marriage and individual. Too many people wait too late
to go to marriage counselling, (I was told this by a marriage counsellor.)
Also if there is any drinking/substance abuse this compounds the
emotional drama. There are 12 step programs for's
called Coda. That may help too. Good luck and hang in there!
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