Stability is the key to success in the fight with this illness. In many ways i have stopped depending on people to be stable (since they mostly arnt, but hey, i'm the crazy one ) I have turned more and more to myself and my puppy for the stability and support that i need. Yea, you can argue about the puppy thing but he is always nonjudjmental, allways happy to see me, and in general a solid source of happiness in my life.
In many ways i have looked more and more toward myself for stability in life. I hear people complaining and getting upset about NOTHING", and it drives me crazy.
I'm glad you have made progress with your AA and your BP. However it might be time to step out of the comfort zone you are in and try something new. You know the man he is and he isnt going to change. And you are not happy in this relationship. However you wouldn't be the first to stay with somone like that, the devil you know is better than the devil you don't.