Been a while for me to check back in, there's a lot on my plate of late.
As stated before, my Wife suffers from BP, in the past nearly 5 years, it has progressed and I've tried my best to "handle it", and offer as much support, which will and does fall on deaf ears.
Last year, for those that recall, we were in VA, attempting another "start" away from the influence of her family here in FL. She left one night, in the freezing cold with her then 13 yr old daughter, and was found walking down a dark highway, neither had sufficient winter coats, and the PD took her to a homeless shelter.
That triggered a new development. She lived in homeless shelters for 4 months, choosing to be "accepted" by those that would listen. During that period, there was NO contact, return of any mail, even those of necessity. Complete isolation, as if that would help things out.
I returned to FL last June. Closer to my younger children, didn't even attempt to contact her, as she wouldn't communicate, and did not seem to care.
That August, she called, had decided to return to FL, and needed to "contact" me to "work things out". Initially she was to stay with her daughter at her Mother's residence. That lasted all of 4 days.
So, I accepted them into my small apartment.
The first short period of time went fairly well. There were some extreme changes in her demeanor, her appearence (she sort of let herself go) and her attitude to those that do frequent homeless shelters and their dependencies etc.
I took her to her her PDoc, he altered her meds, but she flat refused to take them as directed, and blamed the Abilify on her weight gain, three days after it was first prescribed.
No matter how I tried to help, it wasn't working. I did most anything she asked, even spending a LOT of time attempting to get her registered for online schooling with a University. Once the "loan money" was received, she never cracked a book..
There's been a lot of distress, in mid Dec, she took off for a month with her daughter, stayed with friends, but once the expenses built and they asked for some of her money, she bolted, came back to me, but that only lasted about two weeks.
Money is a main trigger, she receives child support is unable to find or maintain employment, and when I ask that she share in responsibility, she bolts, as she already has "spending plans".
She took off, Feb 4th.... I figured she went back to the people as before, but after a month, did some checking, she was back in a homeless shelter in VA. Understand she knows NO ONE in VA but my best friend, who has repeatedly said he will help my step-daughter but that's the line.
Now I understand she's living in a crime infested housing project, is unemployed, sold her 2003 Jeep Cherokee, has no transportation, and according to a recent contact, is not taking her meds.
As for me?
I had some medical issues, took myself to the hospital, BAM! Colon Cancer, surgery, removed 14 inches of colon, and am now being evaluated for chemo.... OUCH!
Now comes the situation that she's contacted me, made reference to coming back to FL, but has no means of getting here, no money, and I've made it clear that she is NOT living with me.... she needs some tough love right now.
Another matter, is that while in the hospital (8 days) a nurse befriended me, and has become quite a good friend. That support has meant a lot of late. Last week my mother passed away.
So it's been a &%#$ sandwhich of late. My Karma needs a change, or new afterlife....
Those on here that are hurting, I'm with you, I feel your pain. BTDT
Not sure what I'll do in the future, but I have to take this one day at a time. Right now, if I don't and my health fails, then there's no one to receive my help when needed. Of late, the help I've received came from a "stranger", but has developed into a great friend.