New member and glad to have found this Forum dedicated to Bi-Polar sufferers. Like many of the members, I'm having to log on to this Forum during working hours simply because it's rather difficult to be discussing this when i'm at home. I'll give you guys a brief run down with my history and wife's history in order for you all to give me the best advice or even just to maybe share some of the similar issues that we have and hopefully give me some sound advice. I'm 34 male 2nd marriage, 2 daughters (13 & 9). My beautiful wife is 31, never been married, no kids (doesn't think she can have any).
We've been married for only 2 months now and together for 2 yrs, and I'm starting to realize that my wife may be bi-polar or at least has some of the qualities/behaviors that a bi-polar individual would have. I'm not educated with this illness but starting to learn very quickly. I'm amazed how there's a lot of others with similar issues and just by reading their dilemmas, I'm already feeling better about our situation. My wife was raped when she was 13 years old by a 25 year old neighbor (she's not sure if there was any penetration) , since then she has stuggled with relationships and hasn't been with someone longer than 3 years.
She has a very short temper and is very confrontational. She's very loving and caring towards others & myself, great religion background, and wonderful parents. She has a history of drinking and started back in high school. She's become very distructive in the past but hasn't done so since we married. We've had physical fights and she has told me she would always make her last boy friend cry because that would be the only way to make her stop. Early in our relationship she would cut herself with a shaving razor on the side of her hip and she claims she would do this in order to cope with her mental pain. I have helped her with that she hasn't done it in over a year. The the fights, I've begun to realize the only way (right or wrong) was to over power her and get crazier than her (roughly pinning her down or pushing her) ( I know sounds insane & wrong), but that's the only method I've found get her to back off. Now she doesn't touch me and she goes to another room and isolates herself.
Now I'm having to deal with her drinking at least 4 days a week, she hides the liquor from me and I'm having to go hunting in search of the alcohol. She's been thrown into jail for being rude (while drunk) to police officer, and a month ago lost control in her suv, hit a traffic sign and ended up in a corn field (drunk as well). Also cracked her rib cage when falling on a wooden stool (while drunk of coarse). I really fear for her. My dad was an alcoholic and my best friend lost his life due to drinking. I'm very worried about all of this. She also has a history of making herself throw up with she's depressed or stressed out, and sister told me she would do it in college as well. She will drop weight extremely fast. She can't handle any stress in her life and she's stressing out too much about my ex-wife as well. It really saddens to know she has a lot of pain from her past, and has had to experience something so horrific. I love her so much and willing to do anything for her, she's an amazing wonderful person. Overall, I really enjoy her when we don't have these battles. Hope you guys can give me some insight. Thank you.