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Bohemian
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   Posted 5/29/2010 11:53 PM (GMT -7)   
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horse crazy
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   Posted 5/30/2010 12:37 AM (GMT -7)   
AARRGGGG!  I know your frustration at getting labeled as the one at fault or "weird" becuase you are the one with the so called "mental problem" and others cliam to be  so darn normal;.  I get angry and the husband immediately asks if I took my medication.  If I insist I am simply angry because of a difference  in opinion or whatever, I even get remarks like "I am not the one who is nuts. or "BP"...which I must admit pushs me into the stratophere of anger. (mostly because he is being a jerk).  It seems we are at a distinct disadvantage in an argument with a SO, because they refuse to accept their responsibility for their part in the problem and simply define the whole issue as us having a mental problem; therefore, unreasonable and not worth listening to.  Just recently my husband and I were arguing and he looks at me and says "why don't you get you little BP butt out of here."  Scream!!!
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Bi-polarII; rapid cycler; Lithium 900 mg; Lamictal 200 mg; seraquel 450mg, klonopin 4mg
 


tortoise11
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   Posted 5/30/2010 6:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I get angry and the husband immediately asks if I took my medication.
 
My SO does that too every time I get irritable.  I'm glad he does though.
 
Do you guys keep other people in the loop?  I tell my SO if I'm legitimately upset, if I'm having a mood swing, forgot my meds, or having a side effect.
 
He's come home to me crying and I've told him that I forgot my medication, took it at x time, and will be fine by x time.
 
He has also come home to me crying and I've told him that I am not having a mood swing and I am actually upset about xyz.
 
If I have a good reason to be a mess, I need his support.  But if I'm just waiting for meds to kick in, I'd just as soon be left alone.  No need to stress him out  - he can't make me feel better and I know within an hour of when I will be OK again.
 
Do you think we are at a disadvantage or that these are relationships in which the other person does not respect you?  I think it is the latter.  Especially since most of those situations wouldn't happen if there was mutual respect. 
 
My SO and I have NEVER argued.  Sure we get frustrated with each other, but we both take soe time to ourselves to calm down and at some point in the future briefly and gently tell the other what the irritation or problem was.  If it is mutual, we share our points of view - usally the one who is less passionate about the issue will "give" to the other.  It's not magic.  It is RESPECT!
Bipolar 2
Borderline Personality Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Panic Disorder


happy bill
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   Posted 5/30/2010 8:09 AM (GMT -7)   

 

  Yea i also try to keep my wife in the loop with how i am feeling. Even though i am generally hypomanic more days than not there are days when i am sad, or irratiable. I tell my wife about it so she knows how i am doing.  It seems to activate her "mama Bear" instinct and she becomes very protective of me when i am down or not feeling well.

  And not to put to fine of a point on it, may be you were just a little cranky that day. You dont have to be BP to be cranky now and then.  Sometimes i think we may look at all emotions as BP based but in truth everyone gets a little sad, cranky, horny, silly, you name it. Its when it starts feeling like an extreme feeling that i get nervous and take note.

 

    Bill


 
   "If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade"
 
   "It isn't my fault that i am BiPolar, It is my responsibility how i treat it so that i don't hurt others or myself."  Happy Bill
 
   Meds. Respirdal  0.5 a day, more if needed.


tortoise11
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   Posted 5/31/2010 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I can't think of anything except not letting it escalate to that point.  With XDH I would have to say "I am not going to talk to you about this now." and walk away or hang up the phone.
 
If I was in that situation (and hypomanic), I would probably turn to sarcasm.  I would go off about how the other person is clearly perfect and has never felt an emotion, has never made a poor judgement...   blah, blah, blah.  I would have to be pretty d*mn p*ssed off to be able to do that!  And I would leave immediately after that to retain the shock value of my little tirade. 
 
If I was in that situation (and depressed) I would completely internolize it and be devastated.  I would leave, go someplace completely alone and cry my eyes out.  THEN I would get angry, then wait for the anger to pass, then go talk to the person.
 
 
Bipolar 2
Borderline Personality Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Panic Disorder


tortoise11
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   Posted 5/31/2010 2:58 PM (GMT -7)   
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Bipolar 2
Borderline Personality Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Panic Disorder

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