I get angry and the husband immediately asks if I took my medication.
My SO does that too every time I get irritable. I'm glad he does though.
Do you guys keep other people in the loop? I tell my SO if I'm legitimately upset, if I'm having a mood swing, forgot my meds, or having a side effect.
He's come home to me crying and I've told him that I forgot my medication, took it at x time, and will be fine by x time.
He has also come home to me crying and I've told him that I am not having a mood swing and I am actually upset about xyz.
If I have a good reason to be a mess, I need his support. But if I'm just waiting for meds to kick in, I'd just as soon be left alone. No need to stress him out - he can't make me feel better and I know within an hour of when I will be OK again.
Do you think we are at a disadvantage or that these are relationships in which the other person does not respect you? I think it is the latter. Especially since most of those situations wouldn't happen if there was mutual respect.
My SO and I have NEVER argued. Sure we get frustrated with each other, but we both take soe time to ourselves to calm down and at some point in the future briefly and gently tell the other what the irritation or problem was. If it is mutual, we share our points of view - usally the one who is less passionate about the issue will "give" to the other. It's not magic. It is RESPECT!
Borderline Personality Disorder
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