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Learning2deal
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Date Joined Aug 2007
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   Posted 6/5/2010 7:14 PM (GMT -7)   
It's been a while since I have posted anything. Here's my troubles.... I had family over for Memorial day. My brother's girlfriend's son told my husband he knew where my tatoo was because he had been with me. This son is a 17 year old kid who has never been made to mind anyone. So my husband was greatly offended, rightfully so, and told me when they left that this kid was nolonger allowed in our home or to be around me or our kids. Well,  now my sister is having a get together and what to do? She doesn't want this kid to come anymore either. So now all of a sudden he is sorry for what he said. I really don't know how sorry he really is. I only know how ticked off my husband is. I am the type of person who believes in forgiveness. My husband not so much. I am starting to feel sorry for the kid because my husband will not cut him a break. This is where the tangle comes in, the feelings part. Why do I feel sorry for someone who said something so nasty about me? This kid is constantly in trouble and just dropped out of high school. I chewed out my brother's girlfriend. She really wasn't at fault aside from the fact that she raised him (!) I don't know what to do next. If I show up at my sister's get together and he's there then my husband will make us leave. This will hurt my sister's feelings I know. I don't know how to make sure he will not be there. Please help if you have some insight to offer. Thank you very much!

Learning2deal
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 52
   Posted 6/5/2010 7:16 PM (GMT -7)   
P.S. MORE DETAIL : The tatoo is on my hip. I showed it off to some friends at a gathering and he must have seen it then.

tortoise11
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   Posted 6/5/2010 7:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't have a suggestion for you dilemma, but I do see that many bipolars have much more empathy for others than "normal" people do.

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Bitzi
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Date Joined Mar 2007
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   Posted 6/6/2010 8:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Well teenagers Are tricky creatures! If this kid apologized then at least he has some sort of moral conviction. Maybe someone could talk to him and have him apologize directly to your husband. He was inappropriate but also may be just socially awkward and maybe just alittle jerk of a teenager. I think a warning would suffice and an explanation that everything he does and every choice he makes effects everyone around him.
 
Bitzi

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