Hmmmm....in some ways I don't know about you two either, but people can always change and it sounds like you are both serious about doing everything you can to make sure this time is different and healthier, so I am all for that part! And I hope it all works so you can be together and love each other in all the right ways.
Great book to buy. I have it at home and my bf has never read it. LOL, and yet no so funny.....I would make notes; and as far as links he could search the net all day! But the links through the resources here on this site are useful.
I think too if I were in your shoes I would make a list of your symptoms, past issues that existed in your relationship and what helps vs does not help in those situations. It sounds like he knows how to comfort you which is a huge thing!
I wish you all the best and let us know if there is anything else we can do to help
Yes, i am glad for you also, but be careful. Relationships are had enough when you are young but throwing BP into the mix will make it tougher.
I think that making notes in the book for him would be a great idea. Not everything in the book applies to all of us. Example, i have never had any issues with gambling, alchol, or drugs. So for someone new to me to read that in a book would be a complete waste of time. And it will take time and mistakes to get this right. So dont be surprised that you may fail at first. However if you get up, dust your self off, and learn from your mistakes, you will be that much closer to a successful relationship that will help you out.
Wisdom, as you know, isnt exactly about getting smarter as you get older. Its more to do with having been on this earth long enough to make just about every mistake you can. LOL LOL LOL True Wisdom comes from learning from those mistakes and doing your best not to make them again.