Overwhelmed with puppy

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red lightening
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   Posted 7/19/2010 8:02 AM (GMT -7)   
We bought a very expensive puppy on an impulse.
Then I got a full-time job and my 17 year old son
came to live with us. I would not have gotten the
puppy had the job and the child come first.

Now I am overwhelmed because the puppy is out of
control and i feel bad for him because I have neither the
energy or the desire to train him. I want to give him away
but my husband says, "No!" He just got finished paying the
puppy off and he's too busy to take care of him because he works
2 jobs.

My 17 yr old helps but he is busy with football practice and a
job.

It's all I can do to do the things I need to get done in a day
and I just can't deal with this puppy. He's chewed up 2 new bicycle
tires, poops and pees everywhere, won't do crate training, )barks incessantly,
badgers my nice older dog, pulls so hard on the leash my hands bleed.

I know I'm whining but I am upset with my husband for not letting me
find a new home for him. He says to wait until our lives settle down and
then he will be able to help. So I said, ok but I'm not happy about it.

I just can't handle anymore

tortoise11
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   Posted 7/19/2010 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   

A lot of people get overwhelmed with a new puppy - especially when it is an impulse.  (Don't feel guilty!)

A dog can do a lot of good for depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder.  If you are willing to try, I CAN help you with this.  (I am a dog trainer cool )


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red lightening
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   Posted 7/19/2010 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
That's cool that you are a dog trainer! I saw on "It's me or the dog" show
to use a harness to keep the dog from pulling so hard on the leash. I used
one before and it worked but it was $20.00 and he chewed it up. Maybe if
I only put it on him for walks?

He also nips all the time and jumps up on me which drives me crazy. I
appreciate the 'don't feel guilty' part...that helps

Any advice would be appreciated. Just feel better talking about it. Thanks.

tortoise11
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   Posted 7/19/2010 9:21 AM (GMT -7)   
The "It's Me or the Dog" lady is a little nutty.  I love that she uses hidden cameras though!  I wish I had that equipment!
 
Getting a harness is bad advice.  A harness evenly distributes the pressure the dog feels making it more comfortable for the dog to pull.  Plus that pressure is reinforcing, making the dog want to do it more!
 
Leash Training:  The easiest way with a puppy is to load up your pockets with FABULOUS treats.  (Like tiny bits of cheese or hot dogs!).  Go for a walk.  EVERY time your dog pulls, STOP, and WAIT until you dog stops pulling.  Say "Yes" and give your dog a treat.  And then start walking again.  It is super-frustrating and SLOW.  You will only take one step at a time at first, but your dog will learn that staying close to you is fun, and pulling makes the fun stop.  "Any behavior that is rewarded will be repeated." Reward the good stuff and the bad stuff will slip away and disappear.
 
Do get the crate.  It is the best solution for chewing and housetraining!  Teach him to go in the kennel on his own.  Throw treats in there and pretend to ignore him.  When he goes in, say "Yes" and give more treats in the kennel.  FEED ALL MEALS IN THE KENNEL.  I don't use kennels often, but my dogs RUN to their kennels when I ask them to.  When you close him in the kennel he will bark and fuss.  IGNORE IT.  DO NOT TAKE HIM OUT UNTIL HE IS QUIET.  No matter what!  Otherwise you train him to be noisy!  Poke treats through the side of the kennel whenever he is quiet.  Keep the kennel in a living area of the house so he doesn't feel isolated.
 
Housetraining.  Set an alarm and take him outside every 2 hours, after eating, after drinking, after (and during play) and after sleeping.  Give him treats when he pees and poops outside.  If you take him out this often, he won't get a chance to have accidents inside.  Keep him on a little leash all the time inside so you CAN "catch him in the act" and take him outside right away.
 
Nipping is not hard to fix either.   The easiest thing to describe in writing is when he mouths you, to grab his lower jaw, tongue, and hang on until he decides it isn't fun and starts to struggle.  Then let go.  He will 1) sit down and look at you.  If he does, give him a treat and walk away.  or 2) he will start to mouth/nip again.  Do it again, wait longer, make it more un-fun.
 
That covers the basics.  I haven't met a new puppy owner that DOESN'T have questions or problems with these things.  You're not crazy - it's just hard to train a puppy to fit into a human household.  It gets better.   :)
 
 
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red lightening
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   Posted 7/19/2010 9:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow thanks Tortoise. I'm crying right now because you are so nice to help me.
I'm going to print this out and keep it with me so I'll remember what to do.
Thank you very very much. I think I can do it.

mogli
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   Posted 7/20/2010 6:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Red, I am so glad we have tortoise, aren't you? LOL Tortoise, thank you for the wonderful advice to red! Red, after reading the training info I am sure you feel less overwhelmed and back to being excited and happy about having a puppy. Everyone loves puppies even though it's some work in those early years. So I hope all those tricks help; they sound easy and brilliant! Enjoy and be very consistant with your training wink You can do it!!!
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red lightening
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   Posted 7/20/2010 7:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone...I love my little puppy!

Voix
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   Posted 7/20/2010 8:04 AM (GMT -7)   
what kind of puppy is it? :)
"crazy" french girl with bipolar II


red lightening
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   Posted 7/20/2010 10:14 AM (GMT -7)   
It's a solid white baby chow...looks like a tiny husky...very cute with a curly tail!

havana
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   Posted 7/20/2010 6:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Tortoise's advice was absolutely brilliant! How lucky we are to have her on the board! Red, I think that, with Tortoise's advice, you'll be on a path to real success with your puppy--who does sound indeed adorable. Best of luck. Puppies can be difficult, but they grow up into wonderful dogs. At least, THIS one will, because he'll be properly trained.

Warmly,
Havana
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