Thanks caren. I'll take all the hugs i can get. LOL LOL LOL
Thanks for all the support you all rock.
Got thru to one appartment place and they have places aviable right away. So at least i have that right now.
And i am going to work on getting way lots of sleep in the near future. With sleep and lots of rest i can get thru this mess. My hope is she decides to move on with her life. Let her move in with her sister and be their problem for awhile.
Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 8/14/2010 12:42:13 PM (GMT-6)
Well my wife called me last night very calm and said i could come back home and live in the middle bedroom. I said that would be ok for a day or two but that i was getting an apartment and moving out. She kept trying to assign blame, i just kept sidestepping that and refused to blame her or i. Whats the point at this stage inthe game, whats broken is broken. I'm tired of living this life with her. SO i simply said that we have both grown so far apart in so many ways and that this has been an issue for years. That no one was to blame, that people do grow apart.
Now i will get the apartment and move out. She said she will give me money for the cable and the internet to stay on and i will see if thats true. In a month if she wont i will cut them off. She starts her new job in sept and that starts at 40k a year. She said she would pay half to three quarters of the house bill. Again thats fine. I am willing to work to make things easy. Delaware divorce law says that we have to be apart for 6 months before getting a divorce. And that if both parties make roughly the same money then there is no alimony. Her son is 19, and has his own appartment in dover, so its just us and the dog.
You all know how much thor means to me. But at this point in my life ineed to be gone to have a life.
BILL! I am so sorry I've been away! Oh my...I am so worried about you, and reading this thread, I am almost in tears knowing you and Thor are going to be apart. Honestly. I am so so very sorry this has happened to you.
First, you truly deserve better. You deserve to be safe and happy.
Second, she was violent, so it all has to end no matter what in my opinion.
Third, I am so very proud of you. I know this has been a struggle for quite some time, and I believe in you and believe you are making good decisions for yourself. Glad you have the kitties with you.
You are a wonderful and strong person. I know you will get through this. I know each day is going to be tough for awhile, but at least you are finding some peace. Don't stop writing to us. I know you will feel much better knowing we are all here to surround you with hugs and love and unconditional support.
Hopefully her calls will stop because that doesn't make things easier on you. Good for you for sticking to your plan and being calm and firm in what you are communicating to her.
No matter what happens, we are here.
Many many hugs Bill !
Oh and I agreed with the suggestion about reporting the incident to the police. It's important I think to do that.
Just popping in to say hello and that I am really proud of you for the way that you are handling this situation. You are a good man and you deserve to be safe and happy. She has to help herself now. I hope that she can do that.
Take care my friend.
Well things are going well. I have a deposit down on an apartment, just waiting to hear i was approved. I am going to see my mom tommrrow, she has been great in helping out. She knows i have screwed up in the past but that this is a toxic relationsip that isnt good for me.
So if all goes well i will move in on thur. It might only be a bed on the floor and my cats but i am honestly looking forward to it.
Finally i have had so much "advice" about getting "evil" and stomping snake heads to get out of this marriage. I just can't be that way. Evil begets Evil. If i get screwed doing the right thing, than that will be fine because at the end of the day, when i look back on my life i need to be able to say i did all that i could to be a good man. My Karma bank account eeds to be kept full, besides it goes against my grain to be hurtfull and evil.
And thanks for all the support, you all are the best.
Now Tortoise, don't go falling in love with me cause im soon to be single. LOL LOL LOL
OK< Im a brat. LOL LOL
Really you all have been a godsend, its been so much help being able to come here and have the support i get from you all.
Yea, the police report thing is serious, and i will think about it.
Aside from that i am eager to move on.
Thanks Cass, that means alot. Its good to know that i have such great support here.