Hi everyone, I have a very serious question. How do people with bi-polar help family members to understand and to better cope with the issue? I believe that my marriage is headed for divorce, because my mate does not understand . When I try to talk to him, he makes me feel so insignificant . I resent that he has more of a life than I do. I ask to go do things with him and he is not receptive of the offer, it is like he is ashamed of me. It is scary not to know when the manic moods might hit, how do I let my spouse know that I am beginning an episode to better prepare him. During the episodes, I feel like I do not want the relationship and I say hurtful things to him. He has cheated on me and I do obsess about it. I have obsessive/compulsive behavior as well. How do I change my mindset when I begin to obsess about things. This really has caused a rift in my marriage. Plus we have so physical contact. I feel like if we did have more of a physical relationship, like cuddling, kissing, holding hands. I think it would help. Has any one dealt with these issues. I feel overwhelmed. Please help me!!!