Hi...thought I'd return the kindness you showed me earlier. I understand what you're going through, my dad was an alcoholic so is my little brother. I unfortunately took the roll as caretaker from an early age. My mom blamed my dads drinking on me when she could and after he passed away my brothers wife and friends would call me all hours of the night when he got stupid.
It's not easy living that way....not your burden to carry, though easier said than done.
There have been a lot of exchanges between my husband and I to get on same page. It's still a work in progress. The most important part is him wanting to understand how to help you and your understanding that you can't fix him. He has to be ready to take those steps. You can support him and love him but not at the cost of your sanity.
Understand what makes you tick, what sets you off and try to listen to your bodies cues. Step back when you must.... it's ok
That's all for now, I hope it helps a little.
Faith... is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.
Borderline Personality Disorder
meds: pristq, lamotrigine, ambien cr, Xanax