Not good, hon. BPs are almost always substance abusers along with it, it's part of the beast. It's called "self medicating". We can get addicted to something the very first time we try it, if it makes us feel good. It's that easy.
The only side effect of that combo of meds, is it might make him a little more drowsy, but a little calm, and probably a slight euphoria.
Is he truly in that severe of pain, or is he maybe exaggerating the severity?
I'm not trying to be alarming, but if he's ordering it online, he may have a problem. Vicodin costs a FORTUNE online, around 100-150 dollars a bottle. At a pharmacy it's dirt cheap. (20 pills for less than $15). The fact that he is getting it online suggests he can't get a doctor to write him any (or any more). I am telling you this, because I did the very same thing. And I tried to justify it by complaining of back pain, which I did have, but it wasn't so severe that I needed a continuous supply of vicodin, and my docs knew it.
If his pain is that severe, he needs physical therapy and some imaging tests (CT, MRI) to rule out any disc herniation (bulging or slipped discs). Don't always be so quick to buy a BPs excuses for taking narcotics, we are masters at lying about things like that, and terribly addictive personalities.
I understand about the weight gain on meds, it happens to almost everyone at first. If he is that sluggish, maybe he should discuss the dosage with his doc, it can always be lowered. I really hope I am wrong, but I agree with you, the online ordering is concerning to say the least.
You are so very welcome; I think THIS is where families should come, haha! From the horse's mouth, so to speak.
I feel like this is the most helpful place I have ever been, even moreso than being a nurse all those years. I hope you stick around and ask to your heart's content, we never get tired of helping others understand. (If that's possible, lol).
You sound like such a nice and caring person; he is very very lucky to have you, I just hope he realizes that.
And yes, BPs ALWAYS have many more complex issues than just being bipolar. Lots of personality disorders usually go with it, unfortunately, those sometimes, not always, stay even after we get better. And substance abuse goes hand in hand with it. I did find, though, that when I was stabilized, my cravings for drugs and alcohol is gone. It's the strangest thing. I guess since I'm not either too high or too low, I don't have that driving, incessant need to fix either one or the other. I really didn't expect that to happen, it's just a bonus!
Anyway, it's always nice to talk to you.
I was just reading your posts and wanted to toss in a few words. That Shannon is one smart cookie and I think that we're all lucky to have her input on this forum.
Something you wrote in your last post caught my attention. You mentioned that you feel cold for feeling that you have to focus on your work for your upcoming art show. Please know that this is not being cold or brutal or unfaithful, but is as important to the whole relationship as anything that you do for your boyfriend. I'm having an evening of unusual clarity after several months worth of turmoil in my own relationship. I am the BP partner who has been through the whole (allbeit, less extreme) gammit of typical Bipolar beaviour. I feel somewhat obliged to you, a caring and involved person, to commend you on your efforts and let you know how strongly I feel that it is as important for you to take care of your own needs as it is to help your boyfriend. It is as tiring loving someone with BP as it is being the person with BP.
I think that one part of the whole picture of chronic illness that is often over looked is the partners, spouses, family and friends of people with Bipolar who work tirelessly to attempt to maintain balance and stability in an otherwise bumpy ride. The fact that you have gone through the effort of involving yourself in this forum is a very admirable accomplishment.
I could probably write for days how important I think it is to maintain your own health and wellbeing as a "caregiver" or partner to someone with BP, but I won't. Just know that as Shannon said, this forum is full of people who understand your struggle and are always willing to listen.
Best of luck with your art show and I hope that you and your boyfriend can find some peace in all of the madness that is life.