When my husband was 17 he had a period that he couldn't sleep. The family doctor said it was a pre ulcer. He went into the Navy and they put him on lithem. I'm sure he had other episodes. Loss seems to trigger it.
The pdoctor now has only given him meds because he was so manic. He has not been told he is bp. He has all the symtoms. not sleeping,grandiose, spending,forced speech,anger. He has done some very bad embarrassing things this time. There seems to be some depression mixed with the mania. He thinks he is the greatest basketball player ever. I wasn't able to count on him for anything, which is so unlike him. Mom has bipolar helps
I was saying the mom has biploar sight was helpful.
His mom told me his dad had it and I can see his brother also has it. Neither dx. The weird thing about him is he never has had the severe depression, only crying bouts with the mania. Yes, my kids are aware. He has been very abusive with my 12 year old.Yelling at him all the time. This summer I changed my work schedule so I could be home with my son during the day and my husband home with him at night. Well as it turns out i needed to be with my husband at night. It has been very difficult and effects my job. My other son (18) was very upset at first. Now I think he is in denial and thinks I'm the crazy one. I talk to my husband many times during the day and he sounds good but when I saw him last weekend he doesn't look good. He looks worn out. Groggy. I really don't have support from his family they are also in denial. I do have a girl friend who is a nurse practiciner and has helped alot with medicine knowledge. Thanks for listening.!!!
He loves to listen to LOUD music. He gets very angry when I ask him to turn it down.
Hi, Kathytu, I am so glad you found us; it's a really good bunch of people. IMO, your husband displays some classic mania symptoms. The running off with an old girlfriend is classic; I did the same about 5 years ago, I am NOT proud of it, and will regret it always. The grandiosity is key; not found in any illnesses except BP and schitzophrenia. In order to be diagnosed wtih BP, the requirement is mania or hypomania for more than 4 days. Type I may only have one depressive episode in their whole life, it's mania. Type II tends to be a little more depressed than manic. I feel that he is probably BP. He is on a very high dose of Seroquel, that's probably why he is so groggy. He really needs a mood stabilizer WITH the Seroquel. I know it is a ***** living with an untreated BP, the worst. Most of us are really wonderful people, you just can't see it when we're sick. If/when he gets BP diagnosis, he is going to have to learn to accept it, and take his meds. This is much easier said than done; we almost all go on and off, and are in denial for a long time. I recommend when he starts them, you monitor his pills. Count them, but don't tell him you're going to, just in case he isn't taking them. It happens a lot. When he starts a stabilizer, you should start to see improvement in a matter of days, but maybe not, as dosages vary widely from person to person. It's hard to treat, I will not lie. you have to be very diligent, observant and be in very close contact with your doc, don't let anything get out of control, call at the first signs of trouble. Learn all you can, you will need to be able to spot them immediately, because he won't know. It's so hard for us to tell. Or he may deny it, too. Blaming the spouse for being crazy or "making him" do the things we do is classic.
I highly recommend you seek marriage counseling, because meds can only do so much. He has to learn to deal with things, and he needs to understand your side, too. A counselor can moderate the conversation so that a big wicked fight doesn't start, and results can be had.
God, I don't have enough time to tell you everythng, there's so much to know!
Please let us know what the pdoc says, what meds he is prescribed and how you both are feeling about it, OK? We are here anytime for ya!
Thank goodness he has you; and that you want to learn all about it.
I know if it weren't for my husband, I would be dead. He is my reason for living. I have been sick for the first 10 years of our marriage, refused to take my meds, classic BP stuff. I made his life miserable, bankrupted us, the whole bit. Yet, he stayed and continued to love me and not judge. It's a miracle. I got stable last year after he finally told me I would have to medicate or he couldn't stay. I knew I needed him, and loved him, but when I got better, I had no idea how much I love that man. I treat him like a god, I have a lot of making up to do, but know what? He doesn't believe I do at all. I adore him, and things are better than I ever could have imagined a marriage to be; he's wonderful. I hope that your husband will do the right thing. Under the sickness is no doubt a beautiful person.