How to deal with mania: call the doc. Get a med adjustment. If it's severe, he's breaking things or spending money like crazy, get him to a hospital before he does a lot of damage.
If he is still havnig a problem on a mood stabilizer, you really need to talk to the doctor about adding some Seroquel. It's really good at breaking an acute mania, and working with a stabilizer for maintenence. Most all BPs take it with their stabilizers. The others in the class cause massive weight gain and can even cause diabetes, tho, such as Zyprexa and Risperdal, so you probably want to stay away from them.
You need to make very sure he is getting adequate sleep. Lack of sleep, even for one night, can cause a manic episode, and sometimes some depression, although mania is more likely. Daily exercise, anything, is really vital to keeping the mood stable also. It relieves stress somewhat, which as you know isn't good for us!!!!
Just to add to psychnurse's response-when I was manic I was so awful to my fiance-I have said things to him that shock me and embarass me now. Before you can cope with his mania, yes, he does need to be medicated. I love Seroquel, it helped me sleep for the first time in years and dissolved my aggression, so I could begin to repair my relationship. I am also a big fan of counselling once things get established with the meds, however, it is such an individual choice.
Emily, I just want to say bless your heart for caring about him and sticking it out. It's a horrible disease that leaves many of us alone because normal people don't understand (why or how could they?) that is IS beyond our control unless medicated. I have done and said things to my precious husband that no one should have to endure but he did and I'm better now, I treat him like a king. I will forever feel awful about the things I've done, but I know that without his support I wouldn't be well today, and he wouldn't have an adoring wife.
I know it's impossible to not get in the way during mania, no matter what you do. Those are just some guidelines to make the line of fire less, uh, hot.
Please keep us "posted" lol, about his progress. And by all means, maybe HE should write in? We would love to hear from him.
Good luck to you both.
Thank you for the thoughtful and very true words. I think after talking to my pdoc and reading up on things and seeing the positive changes since I have been medicated have helped enormously. I have also let that guilt go...I am glad you guys find talk therapy useful...break those barriers!!!
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