Clio I can't help you with the parent thing, I never wanted kids. But the marriage thing I defo can.
First ingredient in the recipe is a good, understanding STABLE guy who is devoted to you in spite of your illness and tries to learn as much as possible so he can help you. Curious how long have you been together? Has he only seen a hypomanic episode once?
Second, do everything in your power to stay well! We can say the most horrible hurtful things, that even tho we know and probably he does too, that we don't mean it and cant control it at the time, words are damaging after a while. Call your pdoc at the very first sign of trouble. Even mild irritability is a warning sign. Call every day if you have to! Don't stay on a med that isn't working, or do adjust the dose per your doc's orders.
I was the most WICKED WICKED B**** on the face of the earth, people always told me they had never heard anybody cut so deep with words. I still can, but I can usually control it unless having problems, like some days right now. I never did ANYTHNG for my poor husband except *****. No dinners, no lunches, affection hardly ever, you read the rest in the other thread. After all that, he stayed. Most wouldn't believe me. But now, it's like I'm another person and I do everything for him.
Sorry, talking about me, but it's an example. I think we are the most spectacular people when we're well because we understand pain and are usually sensitive to other people's. Key is communication, learn to talk effectively without fighting. Probably you already know that from your therapy.
Oh, and I disagree with the skipping a generation. Many BPs including myself and Nickie here, have a parent with it, so that is something to consider, for sure.
I can't think of much else right now, having a very very tired and slow day, but if I think of something I will post it.
Ellie , i want to make sure that you understand I did not mean anything about having kids and there having Bp, in a bad way. I would still love Jaylynn the same if she had Bp, as you love your children. It's just that I hope she doesn't, but will help her in every way when she gets older, I will obviously know what to look for now. I just mean that it is something to think about, and ultimately it is a decision made by the parents. I too did not know I was Bp until after having her. I would change it for the world though. I just anted to make sure you didn't take it wrong or anyhting. I am so paranoid about writing lately, I am sorry.Anyways, I know you will ahndle it the best possible way, you have enough experience with children, more than me anyways. So I give you all kinds of credit for that.
Shannon, you know the best to me anyways, what it takes to make a marriage work, when one is BP. Paul must love you to death and be an incredibly strong and caring man. I always like to hear what you have to say when it comes to relationships, I think I am the queen of the run away bride effect. lol Always running and scared of failure and commitment, not in that order either. Yeah that's perfection!! i just heard a song pertaining to how I felt yesterday, and do you think I could remember the name of it. Crap, I will think of it. WOW .. it almost scared me, it was so close that I thought he was singing the song to me. LOL It is a country song, I don't think you listen to country though. Talk to ya guys tomorrow. nickie