Bipolar DH lost job

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cilly
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   Posted 10/21/2015 10:59 PM (GMT -6)   
My husband ,we separated lost job and became manic,did crazy stuff,hurt me and we lost insurance .

He talks crazy and I feel extremely sad and heartbroken for him as I know his illness is speaking not him,in so many years I learnt to dive life with him.

How can I understand him when he lacks empathy for me ?

It amazes me ..the level of understanding and love I have for him...I wish he knew...

I feel this is not good as my health has declined in past few years a lot and recent months my depression has become acute .
He fails to see my depression ..is that possible ...

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   Posted Yesterday 4:15 AM (GMT -6)   
sorry mate. and sadly it is possible. many many healing thoughts.
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   Posted Yesterday 5:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cilly,

I'm sorry for everything you're going through. Yes it's possible. Sometimes, someone my be so caught up they fail to see that someone else is suffering too. Is he seeking treatment for his condition?

I would suggest you get counseling to help you cope with everything.

Please know that we are here for you.

UA
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cilly
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   Posted Today 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
He does not seek treatment for fear of stigma .Now does not want me back ..rather than me moving on ..he seems to be breaking far from reality.
I worry about him a lots but it's not worth it .
He was on pills before but now refuses to take meds ...he is weird .
I am enrolled n counseling but I rarely go because of anxiety as rarely leave house.
He fails to see my acute depression and how much pain he has caused me .
For sake of my sanity and health ,safety..I need to stay away and move on which seems difficult.
As he was providing for us,I do not work.

Even getting part time work or disability would help me for now and keep me harms way.

He was on antipsychotic meds before which he himself stopped as he thinks he is doing better and no pills can fix brain.
He is his own dangerous doc.
That's why I stay away....I am terrified of his odd actions. cry

Post Edited (cilly) : 10/23/2015 10:28:26 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 10/25/2015 10:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cilly,

I would suggest you take this time to take care of yourself. I agree that you need to stay away and move on. Moving on can be hard especially when it's someone we care about deeply.

You mentioned jobs and disability... Can you try applying for a part time job to help yourself? If disability is an option, you can try applying as well. What about food stamps and coupons to assist you? I'm not sure how one can obtain but maybe you can check on it and see if you can get some.

Please take care of you. Be sure that you are safe and he cannot harm you. We care about you and do not want anything to happen to you.

Maybe you can can hotlines where you can chat with counselors. It's free and you would not have to leave the house. Talking to them can be helpful. You can post here as well. It helps you feel better.

I hope things will get better for you. Please know that you are not alone.

UA
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cilly
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   Posted 10/27/2015 11:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks UA,I wish to work as can keep my anxiety down and keep me distracted .

But my health is worse lately and family and friends insist I apply for disability.

Things do not look good so far so I might have to .

I plan to work part time if I can ....
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   Posted 10/31/2015 7:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Cilly, working part-time may be good for you. It would keep you occuiped and you would be among people (friends and co-workers).

I use work as my distraction. It works sometimes, but when things are overbearing, I'm not as productive as I should be at work.

Please take care of yourself. I don't want your health to get worst. How have things been this week?

UA
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cilly
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   Posted 11/15/2015 11:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for checking up on me.

Things are terrible at my end .
My thoughts are all over the place as my family is not supportive.

I need to get a job and move on and cut ties with them.

I am extremely sad as I love them all and it's extremely sad and grief filled for me to do that.
I am overwhelmed by all...
Cilly

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   Posted 11/19/2015 1:27 PM (GMT -6)   
*hugs cilly*

Sorry I took so long to respond.

Please know that you have our support. Remember to take care of you. Worrying will make you get sick. Try changing your thoughts when you feel overwhelmed. Some deep breathing may help.

Have you started job hunting as yet?

UA
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cilly
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   Posted 11/19/2015 10:29 PM (GMT -6)   
No UA,my present depression and anxiety levels are overwhelming.

It's extremely hard to find work and concentrate for me.

Thanks for hugs...hugs back to you UA.
Cilly

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   Posted 11/23/2015 7:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Cilly, maybe you can work on your depression and anxiety before you start job searching. Work on your coping techniques and feeling better.

Do you still attend therapy? I can't remember...

We are here for you.

UA
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