Can I trust my husband with my diagnosis?

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GumDropz
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   Posted 12/3/2015 7:44 AM (GMT -6)   
I was diagnosed with PTSD and depression 10 years ago.  I suffer from anxiety with sever panic attacks and rage.  I'm currently taking 200mg of Zoloft and 200mg of Lamictal.  My doctor added 300mg of Welbutrin last week.  She hasn't officially diagnosed me as Bipolar but she has been leaning towards it for the last few months.  My question for you guys is should I tell my husband?  We've been married for 15 years and he's seen me at my worst.  He's been there while I've suffered and healed the wounds of my past and knows about my therapy, current diagnosis and medication.  We filed bankruptcy, survived some emotional infidelity and have 2 children together.  We separated about 6 months ago and completed divorce paperwork but decided to not file.  My fear is that he will use this new information to blame me for the problems we've had even though he is the one who became so distant, cheated and left me.  I want to be open to the possibility that my moods and behavior contributed but I don't think it justifies his actions.  I want to tell him because I feel like he should know in the event I really lose it or have a reaction to my meds and because we are trying to make the marriage work... Do you guys have any feedback?

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   Posted 12/4/2015 3:39 AM (GMT -6)   
tell him. why would he blame you? takes two to tango. if you are resuming the relationship, without honesty you have nothing. couples counselling is a good thing.
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   Posted 12/4/2015 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi GumDropz,

Welcome to the forum :-)

You are not to be blamed for what happened. If communication between the two of you is good, and you are both trying to make the marriage work, I would suggest you tell him. Be sure to tell him when you two are alone and comfortable. Be open with him. Hopefully he will accept and support you throughout this.

I hope that things will work out.

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JulesKanter
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   Posted 12/15/2015 10:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello and Welcome to the Forum :)

I'm sorry to hear about your mental health issues but I'm glad that you're trying to work your marriage out. In all honesty, I see no reason for you not telling him. The two of you had been through a lot and this is just another challenge to overcome. You shouldn't hide something like this to the person you love.

Make sure that you tell him calmly and in the right moment. If he truly understand the situation he wouldn't blame you for anything. Communication is pivotal element in a relationship and should be your primary defense against issues coming your way. Talk with each other and make amends.
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