Loss of Libido

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/5/2005 7:41 PM (GMT -6)   
I have bipolar, anxiety, OCD, and insomnia.  I have been in a relationship for a couple years and I have no interest in being intimate.  My boyfriend doesn't get mad at me and he tries really hard to understand how I feel.  He wouldn't mind once a wk, but I don't even want 2 do that.  I find myself making myself doing it because I feel bad for him.  When I do this he can tell and it makes him upset. I try to get out of even cuddling or kissing him because I don't want it 2 lead to anything.  If I wasn't in a relationship this situation wouldn't bother me because I could probably go the rest of my life w/o sex, but it is putting a strain on our relationship and I feel like we won't make it.  Besides the loss of libido, I really dont treat him the way i should because of all the mood swings.  I have been on a dozen different meds and nothing works except trazadone and klonopin for the insomnia.  No sucess for the bipolar,anxiety, and OCD.  I don't know what to do with myself.  I hate myself, my body image, and I don't even know how meds will help like myself.  I recently lost my job because I couldn't get out of bed so I have no health insurance to try more meds at this time.  I just wish I could stay in bed for the rest of my life and never come out of the house.  But I have bills I need to pay.  I go to massage therapy school and it is hard for me because we have to practice massage on eachother(naked under a drape) and i often start crying just knowing that someone is looking at my body.     O.k. I'll shut up now.  I could go on forever about my problems...  I meant to just make the comment about the loss of libido and I guess I lost track.  Anyways does anyone else have intimacy problems?  Is it from the depression or is it deeper then that?  I have been abused before.  My psych doc said that basically it is genetic because my dad has been going to him for chronic depression for about 20 yrs and my dad has problems functioning sexual.  Started maybe in his late 30s, early fortys, I'm not exactly sure. I'm only 22 yrs old. I thought that the docs answer of "I'm just not made to have sex often, It's not in my genes" sounded not right.  He said he's been trying to work with my dad with it for years and has had no sucess it's just something the both of us just have to live with.  He made me feel like there was no hope for me sad .  Anyone have any input, I would appreciate it.         Thank you  

Ellie 1
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Date Joined Apr 2005
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   Posted 12/6/2005 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Tahjiana,
Welcome to healingwell.
Could it possibly be the Klonopin causing this? I know that when I take it all sexuality goes straight out the window. I become completely disinterested. Maybe even the trazadone. I did a web search and sexual side effects weren't listed but that doesn't mean that it can't happen. I hear that alot of antidepressants do that and perhaps other psych drugs as well.
Also, if you're not comfortable with the pdoc's indifferent response, I would certainly shop for another. It is your right to have a pdoc you can trust to be a partner in your treatment. One that you don't feel is brushing your concerns off as unimportant.
I hope you find a solution to your problem.
Take Care

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/6/2005 1:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Ellie for your insight.  The next time I go 2 the pysch doc I will ask if it could be the klonopin causing the disinterest.  Thanks! :-)
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