Pregnant with bipolar and ptsd

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Darkwolf
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   Posted 11/25/2016 8:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I found out I was pregnant 6 weeks ago, being 3 months pregnant now due to the fact I didn't know until 6 weeks. I'm so terrified. I almost had a abortion at 1st , but I knew my family would disown me. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my home, because I can't continue the job I have now all the way through. I have to lift things all day and it's 12 hour shifts. I don't have an obgyn , because the one I had dropped me dye too an insurance change. My psychiatrist took me off my lithium and vistiril and lowered my clonopin dosage and lamictal dosage. I keep having panic attacks Like crazy and extreme depression. I had really bad suicidal thoughts on Saturday during my severe panic attack and almost did. My doctor brought my lamictal back up. I'm so scared. I don't know what to do, I just know I'm afraid tho do anything or go anywhere and I really need to go a lot of places today. I have to go to the bank and try to get a loan, because I can't afford to pay my rent this month, because of my hours being cut due to thanksgiving. I need to go to turn in an application, but am afraid to even fill it out. I need to call some Dr's and try to find an obgyn, but I'm afraid to call anyone.I'm afraid to go to the bank... I'm afraid to do anything. Just writing this post is scary. Has anyone on here been pregnant while on clonopin or lamictal ? How do I deal with life on such a small low dose of meds while pregnant with raging hormones? Does anyone have any advice or input ? cry cry cry cry cry

Tim Tam
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   Posted 11/25/2016 5:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Darkwolf:

I'm sorry for what you are going through.

Do you have anybody who can help you?

I help this woman where I Live, and about a month ago she was having compound problems. She had a situation in her neighborhood that made her feel she needed to move out of there.

She didn't want to, but finally she had to move in with her daughter who had 2 children, 150 miles away. Her daughter drank, and basically didn't take care of the young children.

This woman I help was a real stickler for taking care of children, and told her daughter, "You need to take care of these children."

The daughter let her know the mother wasn't going to be telling her what to do, and offered to physically fight the mother.

So the mother moved back to this town, after only about a day with her daughter. Back here, she had constipation going on for about 4 or 5 days before she called me. She said she was was so weak she had flies landing on her and she couldn't knock them off.

She needed a laxative and groceries, but had no car to get to the grocery store, or the strength. She's got layer upon layer of problems. What she needs is some help.

I have real problems with transportation, so I can't get in a car, either. This nice guy up the street has fixed a leaking pipe or two in her bathroom, and repaired the rotten wood in the floor.

So he knows her and where she lives. He comes by my house to cut the grass, or something. I thought, ask him to go get "Jane" some groceries and the medicine, even though it's 10 or 12 miles out there.

I ask him. He says, OK. I tell him her condition and say, "You're probably saving her life."

He takes her the groceries and the laxative. With the food and the medicine, she starts to get better. The next day or so, she's better, and in a few more days she's OK.

What is the moral of this story? I think you need some help. Do you have any help?

You have problem after problem heaping on your head, as you already know. I saw a TV show one time about scuba diving, and going into ship wrecks. The diver has to know how he got into the wreck so he can back out. Sometimes the diver doesn't remember and he can't get out.

They advised, after the second turn (problem) going into a ship, start backing out. Don't wait to the third. So, I think you need to start backing out of these problems.

Lithium stopped my panic attacks, but your doctor took you off of Lithium, perhaps because you're pregnant.

You said, "I'm afraid I'm going to lose my home, because I can't continue the job I have now all the way through. I have to lift things all day and it's 12 hour shifts."

I think you also need to be positive that you can get through this.

"One problem at a time, and be positive about that problem."

I used to be uncon. neg., and was tripping myself up because my con. wanted to solve the problem, but my uncon. wanted to trip myself up, because as a child I had been told that everything was neg. including me.

So my con. wanted to solve the problem, and my uncon. obeyed my childhood training (or my bi-polar), and was neg. about solving the same problem. So I would basically go in circles.

Then I read a col. on being positive when trying to solve a problem. I had never thought about that. I now knew my uncon. was what was messing me up, and because it was hidden, I didn't know that.

So, I realized the col. was right. I needed to get positive (my uncon.) going into the problem. So I would say prior to going into a problem, "Think positive, think positive...." trying to make sure my uncon. was positive.

Only then would I try to think of a solution, and try to keep my uncon. neg. ("that solution won't work because...") from rising up on me, unseen, and go ahead and try the possible solution that my con. had thought of.

So, I'm just suggesting you might try this. Oh, another thing. I heard people say, or I'd read, be positive, but I couldn't be positive all day long, I wanted to keep being me, a jerk.

This col. said in effect, you don't have to be positive all day long, and you can still be yourself, a jerk. I liked it. It said, all you have to do is be positive when you're trying to solve a problem.

I thought, I can be positive for 5 minutes, but not all day long. So, the 5 minutes of torture, being positive, I liked.

So, that col. really helped me.

I think going into any of these problems, it might help you if you're positive. Maybe, list all of your problems, and then maybe list the top 2 or 3. And then, maybe, pick the top one.

Maybe write down the people you're going to call for that one, and then the phone numbers. Then call the phone numbers.

Same for the 2nd and third ones.

When you come up with a problem, first, don't think of the problem, get positive that you can solve it ("Think positive, think positive...") and only then start to think of the problem.

"One problem at a time, and be positive about that problem."


Do you have anybody who can help you?

You say, "I'm so scared. I don't know what to do,"

As a senior citizen, and one who can't drive, I've had home health care people who come over to my house. Their companionship is worth as much as anything else that they do. Living by myself, I don't have a whole lot of that.

And basically all of them are great at helping me with a problem. Some of them have some really good suggestions and using them to bounce ideas off of is really helpful.

So, as long as you're borrowing money for your house, or whatever, can you scrape up some money for a home health care person. It's about $20 a hour.

You said, "I just know I'm afraid tho do anything or go anywhere and I really need to go a lot of places today."

Home health care person would run the errands for you, or you can go along for the ride.

You said, "My psychiatrist took me off my lithium and vistiril and lowered my clonopin dosage and lamictal dosage. I keep having panic attacks"

It's good you have a psy. Why did her lower you meds, because you're pregnant? I guess he knows what's going on, has anybody ever thought, maybe you could go into the hospital for awhile?

I mean, with the levels of issues that you have, seems to me like that would help.

You say, "How do I deal with life on such a small low dose of meds while pregnant with raging hormones? Does anyone have any advice or input ? cry cry"

I don't know, but I think you're smart to seek out help.

Please let us know about some of this.

Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 12/4/2016 4:13:08 PM (GMT-7)


Darkwolf
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   Posted 11/25/2016 7:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I want to go into the hospital until I'm stable, but I can't, because if I did I wouldn't have a home to come back to. My boyfriend doesn't make enough to pay all the bills. We barely make enough together to survive. I'm not a negative person, I'm just not stable right now and have nobody to help me... Thanks for your input... I'll let you know if anything improves

Tim Tam
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   Posted 11/25/2016 10:04 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm glad you responded.

I'm glad you're not a negative person.

You have no family who can help you?

I was glad to do what I could.

Please let us know if there are any problems we can help you with.

Please let us know if anything improves.

UserANONYMOUS
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   Posted 11/29/2016 6:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Darkwolf,

Welcome to the forum!

I am sorry for all that you are going through. However, you must ensure you take care of your physical and mental health especially now that you are pregnant. Sometimes Bipolar can worsen during pregnancy. Talk to your boyfriend and see if he can assist. Let him know that you need help and you are not able to continue work.

Talk to your doctor about how you feel and what you are experiencing.

I hope things will get better for you.

UA
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