It certainly sounds like you are doing everything right up to this point. The best thing that you can do to help your wife is to keep an open mind and seek professional help and keep going until you find someone who is understanding of the situation. Its a tough spot that you're in, but its important to keep in mind that there are all sorts of options to help get your wife out of that awful place and to help keep her on more stable ground. Don't feel guilty for introducing your wife to the other fellow with BP - you didn't know how it was going to turn out. You could have been introducing her to a postive influence that might have been a help - it was crummy luck that he was in a bad spot too.
I guess for me, the biggest thing is to surround myself with people who understand that I have an illness (although they may not understand the BP itself) and I can't help the way that I feel, but know that the situation is temporary. I also need people to understand that its not a matter of just "getting happy" or "getting over it".
I have to apologize for posting just a quick reply, but I'll try for a better response later when i have more time.
My thoughts are certainly with you and I hope that you can find some comfort in the drs visit today.
Post Edited (SMSIRL) : 2/3/2006 10:43:40 PM (GMT-7)