Thanks for the replies. Does anyone know what causes borderline? From what I have read, it has to do with childhood abuse. The abuse being physcial, emotional, or sexual. I read that it causes many relationship problems because people who have it constantly seek attention and put unrealistic ideas and expectations on those they love.
I need help majorly! This situation fits me...I was emotionally/verbally abused throughout my childhood and I was attention neglected because my parents were always too busy arguing and fighting with eachother. Often there was physical violence as well. Now I have extreme self-esteem issues and I find it hard to believe that anyone could ever love me. My husband loves me very much and tells me all the time...but I just don't see why. He is the person that I put unrealistic expectations on and I make him my hero. Often the expectations I put on him are so unrealistic that I get upset over the stupidist things he has no control over. The main reason I married him because the way he makes me feel. He made me feel loved...he has seen every side of me and has loved me for who I am. Because of the love he has given I have been very clingy to him and besides the unrealistic expectations, I can not stand to be without him. I CAN NOT SLEEP WITHOUT HIM! He works third shift and I am not working right now because of being bipolar and just being placed on meds. We both sleep during the day because I can not sleep when he is at work at night. He is my world...but I don't want to make him feel inhuman by putting these unrealistic expectations on him. I want to love myself and fix my self esteem issues...I just really struggle. Can anyone help, and does this sound like borderline? What kind of treatment is there for borderline?