Hi Ducky - I'm sorry to hear that you've been having a rough time. I'm with Ellie and would strongly suggest eliminating as much subjectivity here and getting in to a doctor and have another evaluation immediately. If you're not happy with what your doctor has to say, get a second opinion. It is important that you are comfortable with your doctor and their ability to determine what is the root of the problem whether it is BP or not.
If for whatever reason you felt the medication wasn't working, you need to talk to a pdoc about that. The medication helps us to level the playing field and face life with a clear approach. It isn't a cure all but it has the ability to help create balance where we would otherwise not have control and tackle the other things in our life for which we do have the ability to change.
I think that my Left Brain is working over time today, but I completely agree with Ellie that you need to put the advice of your family on hold until you can find medical attention that meets your needs. It is your life and your body and untreated BP is a volatile situation.
Take care and I hope that you can find some peace in the situation,Putter