Hi Chephzibah, I wanted to welcome you to Healing Well forum. I am sorry that your going through so much. I have quite a bit of experience working with people with mental disorders. Also, my brother and have a close friend that has Bipolar Disorder. It is very easy to get stressed when your in the type of situation you are in. For a person who has BP stress is also a trigger for mania, so moving for him was more than likely one trigger. People with BP are not mentally lazy in anyway, the denial is a normal human reaction that anyone of us would have when faced with a disease or disorder. People with BP often will stop taking their medications once they have formed a period of stability on them and think that perhaps "everything will be different now" if they quit taking them, if you understand what I mean. My friend has gone off and on his meds several times and each time he has explained that the reasoning for it was that he felt that he was "cured". Granted being stable on medication can give the person with BP this feeling. It is the same with people who have depression and who quit there meds.
I hope that you can hang in there, be strong as you sound that you are. We are here for you if you do need anything....Take care.