HI, I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm in a similar situation. I wonder how many of us are out there! I am married 1 1/2 years to an alcoholic and Bipolar I man. I, too, walk on eggshells and try to avoid setting him off. We work together, and commute together, so there is little downtime from seeing each other. We are in terrible debt and he keeps digging us deeper. I sometimes wonder what it was I saw that made me want to marry him. That's a terrible thing to say, but the truth. A few weeks ago he totally lost touch with reality and thought I was a man he used to know who was a child molester. He kept me hostage on our bed and hid or broke all of the telephones. I was able to sneak back my cell phone when he turned his back and had it hidden just in case. He was yelling crazy things and threatening me for hours. You should have seen the crazy look in his eyes. He kept telling me that his wife (me) was safe somewhere and he was going to make me (male child molester) pay for what I did. Finally he went to the bathroom and I was able to call 911 for help. One officer showed up and drew his gun, my husb used me as a human shield and charged the officer. Backup arrived and beat the crap out of my husb. and left him in the ER as an unknown wife beater (never laid a hand on me) and drug user (does not do drugs). 33 stiches later, 2 broken ribs, huge bruises and abrasion, the ER let him out of the hospital and back into my house! Luckily we found a great Dr who diagnosed him with Bipolar and gave him meds. It's been 2 weeks sober and on meds now. The Dr has me on meds for PTSD. My husband wants to drink again and it scares me. I can't go back to living in fear the way I was.
I hope your situation does not end up like mine. You really stood by him, which is admirable. Maybe you, too, can find a good Dr who can help both of you. Thanks for letting me tell my story. Good Luck
Post Edited (Loribop) : 7/8/2006 7:46:51 AM (GMT-6)