I am hoping that someone will be able to help me by giving me information and some advice.
I have a 25 year old son who lives overseas. When he was about 17 he started to become quite difficult, and was smoking cannabis. He has since told me that he has had some emotional problems, and I do think that he used drugs as a means of self medication. He has assured me that the only drugs he has used are cannabis and alcohol.
Over the years we have had a bit of a rough ride with this boy, but he is dearly loved and has the total support of a loving family. His dad and I divorced years ago, and about five or so years ago his father was diagnosed with bipolar.
I visited my son overseas last week and noticed that he was quite stressed and seemed troubled. On talking with him, it transpired that he was having a bit of a difficult time, and had recently lost his job (though he had just commenced a new one) and had a few financial problems. I spent a lot of time with him during the week and am a bit worried because of a few things:
1. he was quite verbally aggressive and loud at times, though was able to be calmed. I think this might have been related to his general anxiety.
2. he found it impossible to sit and relax and was continually up doing things and going places
3. on two of the 7 nights he complained that his 'insomnia was returning'
4. there were a couple of occasions on one evening where his speech became very pressured and loud and you couldn't get a word in edgeways. He did eventually settle down after everyone went to bed and he told me he slept well that night. He seemed OK the next day.
I did speak to him about some of these issues - sort of gently probing him about his thoughts about the issues. The upshot is that he is adamant that he will not see a Dr because he does not need one, and that if he did he would not take any medication because he believes prescribed medication has had a bad effect on his dad (from whom he is now estranged).
In all other ways he seems fine - he was able to problem solve his situation and he is aware of various options open to him. I wonder if this could be a mild case of hypomania which will go away once his anxiety diminishes, or if it could be something more serious. I worry about him particularly because he lives overseas.
Any thoughts/opinions would be very welcome.