Hi there Optimistik ,
Welcome to Healing Well.
I've read your post a few times now but I really couldn't say , I'm not a professional , and each persons symptoms are different. It may or may not be the BP.
I'm sorry you're being put through this , it's not very comforting to know that he has done this twice before - but I "think" it sounds deeper than just cold feet. Do you know if he has gone straight from one relationship to another?
You say he is not getting any treatment - unfortunately unless things get beyond control , this is his choice. You don't think he's on medication....have you ever asked him/his mom/cousin?
Maybe this job is worse than he's letting on and has dragged him down? I really couldn't say.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help but I don't like to see a post go unnoticed - keep posting here , I'm sure other people will be along with their thoughts. Let us know how you are and what's happening , more info might help us get more of an insight into what's going on.
Hey there Optimistik - just posting to see how you are , have you spoken with his mom?
Look after yourself ,
P.S. To countrygirl - that's a GREAT idea.
Thanks guys! I Am hopeing it works out that way because if I bring it up he will not listen,not like if a professional.I read where early on most do not believe their behavior is abnormal...And with him it has been such a gradual thing.He just keeps saying he don't know why he feels this way.I will try to be patient and wait for him to have to join my therapy.After that if he does'nt get help for it.I will talk with his family.I still want him to be okay...
Optimistik...I would do the same...talk with his mom or family.They don't understand why they stop caring about you...I'm just glad I got as many years as I did.Who knows,maybe if he figures it out he'll get treatment,it might work out.I don't want him to have a lifetime of messed up relationships....Take care
I hope everything goes OK.
Have you tried texting instead of ringing - I hate talking on the phone most of the time and I seem distant , uninterested or rude which I don't mean to seem , a text is much less invasive - less pressure thinking what to say next and he doesn't have to answer right away , he will feel more in control.
Post Edited By Moderator (smiler) : 1/31/2007 4:27:24 AM (GMT-7)
Post Edited (Optimistik) : 2/2/2007 6:16:47 PM (GMT-7)