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countrygal
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   Posted 1/17/2007 4:58 AM (GMT -7)   
 I know its long.I'm sorry but really need advice sad I have gotten so much help on here already,but I thought if I told my story,everyone could perhaps give some advice on different questions.My husband and I have been together 15 years,married 13.His first nmarriage,my second.First husband alchohlic.Anyways.We have always been very close.Over the past couple of years,lots of stressful situations.Seeing my mom pass away with alzheimers.Youngest son developed anxiety attacks.Gets bullied at school.Now we take him to therapy. sad   In hindsight.My husband has always had highs and lows.But over the years they have gotten worse.Well when we talked on Christmas he told me to leave it,it would pass.Finally,he said he did'nt feel the same anymore and he just could not understand.He needed to leave us,but does'nt want to leave us without.We have struggled financialy this year also.Everytime he would fix one thing something else would happen.Anyways it broke my heart and hurt my gut worse than any pain ever.But I have to be here for my son.Went to doc,who put me on anti-dpressant.When I went to my therapist she asked all questions that were'nt me.but everything matched my hubby.
 SSo she said he most likely has bipolar.If I throw this at him,he'll say your crazy,cause its coming from his wife.So we decided once I've been in therapy a few times,she says she or the other male therapist says they would want him to come in anyway to help with closure///
 He really is a good man.If he was'nt it would'nt hurt so bad.He has not left yet as he wants to get me something to drive at tax time.Now we share a vehicle.He has'nt told our son.I don't want to destroy him.We have always been my sons strength.But its getting worse,hubby gets spells where he says he just can't sit here.And he'll go to his moms or sis for a few hours.They will call to see if I'm okay.They don't even see it.Now I'm getting scared he is going to start with things I read since my research.Cause of course I immediately started reading about bipolar.Since this low has been so long,so many triggers this year.What if on his high he starts sleeping around like I read some do.I don't know if Me or his son could handle that.One would be hard enough...I just don't know how to cope sad
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   Posted 1/17/2007 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   

As I said before , I think your idea is a good one.

Please , don't go worrying yourself about things that haven't happened , I have never cheated , but when I'm manic my partner can tell as we have different $£x.

I think you may have read too much of the standard steriotypical text on BP while doing research - everyone is unique , and the way this condition affects each person is unique too.

Let us know how you get on with the therapy with your hubby.

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countrygal
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   Posted 1/17/2007 11:47 AM (GMT -7)   
 I know you are right sad But I am a worrier.And we are not sleeping together at present.He says he scared to give me false hope,if his feelings does'nt change,and again he does'nt know why hes feeling this way.And I did hurt bad when he first told me.But I should know him after this many years and know its still not in him to do that to me.He would tell me first.....Thanks so much,for the support.It helps beyond beleif...

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   Posted 1/19/2007 9:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Countrygal, this is Optimistik, 

I know you've already posted to mine about how your situation is so similar to mine. I just want to say hang in there.  I'm trying to do my best as well and as you have already seen the post by Smiler, there is hope that things will work out the way you want it to and that there is hope to have a successful marriage with someone who has Bipolar.  :)

Big hugs... 


countrygal
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   Posted 1/20/2007 6:37 AM (GMT -7)   
 Thank you optimistik....It helps me so much to come hear....I just wish everyone knew how much it has helped,especialy when things are bad and I'm so down... :-)
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   Posted 1/31/2007 6:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey countrygal.. how are things? Any better?
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countrygal
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   Posted 1/31/2007 9:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for asking ducky I posted back to you on my wmnak thread...please take care :-)
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