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   Posted 1/24/2007 8:31 PM (GMT -6)   
i go to a place called mind whitch is for people with all kinds of mental health problems i have been seeing a counceller for appox a year at mind last saturday i see her every saturday for an hour she took me in to the room as normal then said that she can not see me anymore i asked her why she said that recently she has started to have feelings  for me and that that would interfere with my councelling i have had feelings for her for quite a while but hid them she is younger than me plus married i told her that she has helped me more than anyone else if there was someway of compromising but she said no so now i have no counceller i looked forward to seeing her every week and i feel quite upset i am going to try and talk to her this saturday not sure what i am going to say and also i am not feeling to bad got to see profferser ferrer on friday hes an expert on bipolar also going to be interviewed by some students that should be good gaz 

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   Posted 1/24/2007 11:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Gaz

I don't know what to recommend. Being butt ugly, I have never experienced you circumstances.

In my own opinion, for whatsoever that is worth, I think your counselor is correct in the cessation of your sessions. You go there for help for you. A possibility of inappropriate relationship would be disastrous for all those involved. Counseling is to help you deal with life. Don't make life more difficult that it is already.

Your friend

I want "I wish I had one more day to spend at the office" on my tombstone.

I used to be crazy, but now I have enough money to be called eccentric.

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   Posted 1/26/2007 9:10 AM (GMT -6)   
welcome back!  we've mised you.  glad that you are well enough at least for someone to consider a relationsip.
a relationsip with any caregiver is not only inappropriate, it is actually harmful.  in order to help someone a pdoc or therapist must be able to maintain a "psychic distance" from their client.  this psychic distance allows the caregiver the opportunity to see and evaluate the patient's behavior objectively. by being able to be objective, the caregiver can make objective evaluations and recommend courses of action that he/she believes will be helpful to the patient.  sometimes these therapies may be painful.  the therapist must be able to see past the pain to the benefits ahead.
if the psychic distance is violated, the therapist willl be unable to keep his/her objectivity or may not be able to see past the pain of a type of therapy.
i have had a few therapists who have said that they wished they had met me under different circumstances so that we could just be friends.  both of us knew that this was quite a compliment for me (i don't have many friends) and was also a reconition of the need for the psyhic distanace.
hope this helps, gaz.
That light at the end of he tunnel?  It's an on-coming train.
Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.
Insanity is defined as doing the same actions over and over again and expecting a different outcome.

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