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countrygal
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   Posted 1/27/2007 6:09 PM (GMT -7)   
 warren I hope you read this,as this is a question I think you can help me with.And if anyone else has anything,please have at it...Do you ever get so restless you just have to get out of the house,and go anywhere,lowes,walmart,wherever.And if so how does your wife deal with that?Sometimes hubby is fine for days.Other times he has to stay on the go all weekend,like he can't even be with us...And I can feel it.Our connection I can feel it and it can make me sick or get my nerves tore up,which does not help my nerves or my stomach.
 I can't fix it for him.He doesnt even see it.Im lucky in that I know its him not me.And until he wants help or decides to tell our son and leave,how do I deal?
 Im not trying to put this on you,its just that past advice has really been helpful...
 Take care everyone.
I use to have a handle on life ,But it broke!!!!


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   Posted 1/31/2007 6:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Countrygal... how are you? Things any better? Has he decided to try and go to counseling?
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countrygal
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   Posted 1/31/2007 9:01 PM (GMT -7)   
 It is a little better...No...so we have decided he will move out.He still says its just him.Theres nothing wrong he just needs time.And I told him as long as we are in the same house.And I feel hes miserable,my nerves are shot.I can begin to heal if the source of pain is gone...Thanks ducky...Take care

I use to have a handle on life ,But it broke!!!!
 
I suppose I'm derranged..
 
 
Why I have not begun to Defile myself...


Ducky
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   Posted 1/31/2007 9:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey gal... maybe he just needs some time away... maybe if he is on his own without you and your son, he'll realize how important you guys are in his life... I know this is such a hard thing to go through.. but you're right, once he's out, you can try and move forward... hang in there, know that we are here for you... take good care..
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Current Meds -  Enbrel/Prevacid/Synthroid/Nitrofurantoin
Past Meds - Inderal/PTU/Prednisone/Voltaren/Feldene/Mobic/Cortisone and Steroid Shots
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countrygal
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   Posted 2/1/2007 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
That means the world to me right now
...(((HUGS)))
I use to have a handle on life ,But it broke!!!!
 
I suppose I'm derranged..
 
 
Why I have not begun to Defile myself...


wmnak
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   Posted 2/2/2007 5:02 PM (GMT -7)   
gal,
 
i call this "antseyness" the "heebee jeebies" which, if i'm not mistaken is actually a term coming from about ww i.  another term, more modern, is "cabin fever" coming from being snowed in a cabin miles from nowhere and having no where to go oand no way to get out.  yes, i get them - i just cann't STAND staying where i am.  i might try reading or watching the tube, but can't sit still long enough to get into anything.  sometimes i just go out and take a walk (remember i've had 2 bak surgeries and am in constant debilitating pain for which i have just been prescribed morphine).  :-)    i can only imagine the site i make wavering down the street.
 
because of the narcotics that i take, i drive as little as possible.  if i would have an accident, it would automatically be my fauly after they discovered the opiates in my system.  also, if i should be stopped for any reason i would be arrested and charges with possession of a controlled substance (perhaps for resale, depending upon how much i had with me) because i carry some tablets with me at all times in case i get "breakthrough" pain - pain that simply does not respond to any modality but high potency narcotics.  my wife does most of the driving and is very accomodating when i get cabin fever.  she will often make up an excuse to go to wal-mart, lowes, etc. so that i can get over my antseyness.
 
hope this helps and i pray that you are feeling better and taking care of you and your son.
 
warren
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Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.
 
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countrygal
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   Posted 2/2/2007 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   
 I am  okay warren...thanks :-) It is so great that your wife does that.We have tried for my husband but he just wants to go.I have learned you can't fix anyone else,only yourself.I did have to up my effexor xr.And tho I only take the xanax at bedtime I keep them with me in case it gets really bad and I have to take the edge off.Had'nt thought about it being a narcotic and the police.I will say I never take it if I'm out with my son even tho it is the mildest dose.I worry to much...
 I am sorry you are in so much pain.but so glad you have a loving wife.I will still be here for my husband.But I am not healing with him in the house.I feel his feelings.I want him happy.But I want to be happy.And I love my son,but even if hubby would,and he won't,I can't live a fake life.I've also brought from this out of this situation you have to just be yourself...
 I am worried because I have crohn's and can't always work.Don/t know how to get by,plus diabetes...
 Thanks so much for answering.Once again I feel like warren to the rescue...How do you help so many others,when you are in such pain sad
 Take care...
I use to have a handle on life ,But it broke!!!!
 
I suppose I'm derranged..
 
 
Why I have not begun to Defile myself...


wmnak
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   Posted 2/3/2007 9:39 PM (GMT -7)   
gal,
 
you are learning and you are growing.  no, you canot fix anyone else, only yourself.  the most that you can do for another person is to FACILITATE their wellness.  and you are absolutely right, you must always beyourself.  as polonius says in hamlet, "and this above all, to thine own self be true."  of course he was a bombastic piece of commic relief. :-)
 
i have met some people with chrones.  not a very pleasant ailement.  one of my closest friends had almost all of his large intestine removed, a bit at a time.  but he pushed himself to work even after he retired.  he said that if he weren't working he somehow felf like he was cheating.
 
i hurt, therefore i'm alive.  the pain is sometimes too much for me to bear, even with the mophine.  but those episodes don't last too long (thank god!).  as i have said before, i have lived a lot of lives during this incarnation.  some of them have been fun.  others have make hell seem like a great alternative.  but in each of these lifetimes i have aquired experiences and insights - some on what do to do and others on what works most efficiently.  i enjoy sharing these experiences and insights so that others don't have to go through the pain that i have endured.  i cast my bread upon the waters, as another jew gone bad once said.  sometimes i make people angry when they don't want to question their beliefs.  oh, well.  sometimes i save someone from harm.  that's a big mitzvah.  look at it in terms of karma.  i have generated a great deal of negative karma during this incarnation.  sharing what i have learned provides positive karma for me.
 
hope this explanation helps explain who and what and where i am.
 
warren
That light at the end of he tunnel?  It's an on-coming train.
 
Some day you'll learn that a good bm is better than sex.
 
Insanity is defined as doing the same actions over and over again and expecting a different outcome.


countrygal
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   Posted 2/4/2007 6:50 AM (GMT -7)   

 Your friend must have been very strong.I hope I am becoming strong enough to do the same.I must admit I have been blessed as my crohns is more times mild than not,

 As for the negative karma.I guess your are just as smart as I thought because I have generated alot of negative karma this past year.And I am learning from that which hopefully will bring good karma,as now I see how to help another friend that really needs me. :-)

 I have been thru many lives in this life also,and sometimes have asked how much more can I take,but again,I am learning.

 Thanks ever so much Warren :-)   I had forgotten hamlet,but that is basically the whole of it all "to thine own self be true"

 Take care!


I use to have a handle on life ,But it broke!!!!
 
I suppose I'm derranged..
 
 
Why I have not begun to Defile myself...

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