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Butterflymom23
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   Posted 2/7/2007 7:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm going a difficult down time right now. I have a 15th month son and want nothing to do with him. Him or my husband. I just want to be left alone, but I feel like if I get left alone for too long I'll be how I was before...When I got depressed I use to ........ I don't know what to do...help
 
 
 
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Post Edited By Moderator (smiler) : 2/8/2007 11:07:20 AM (GMT-7)


Jade11
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   Posted 2/7/2007 9:58 PM (GMT -7)   
You may be suffering from some kind of postpartum depression.  I would talk to your husband about how you are feeling so you can get some support.  It would also be a good idea to check in with a doctor.  You might be suffering from depression, and it is best to get that treated right away.  Or you could start with therapy or other techniques for helping with depression.  Also, it can be hard to be a parent.  Getting involved with a parenting support group might be a good idea.  Just so that you interact with other parents and you get some time away from the house.

smiler
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   Posted 2/8/2007 11:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Postnatal depression can hit two , even three years down the line.

Please go and talk to your doc hun.

Know that you're not alone in this ((((HUGS))))

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Butterflymom23
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   Posted 2/9/2007 8:14 AM (GMT -7)   
I have talk with the doctors about it. They just put me on meds. I don't see my counsolor until next week and my husband just doesn't understand what I'm going through.

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   Posted 2/9/2007 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   

Meds can help you as long as you use them in conjunction with therapy. What meds have you tried/are you on? Meds are supposed to help you to feel better , so that you can get better......see what I mean? If they are not doing their job there are many others out there - don't give up just because one doesn't work. Same goes with doctors - if they don't do the job , find a different one.

I'm so glad you are going for counselling - I've been waiting for counselling since October , I still have another month/month and a half to wait.....it will be hard going for you but you WILL get there.

As for your husband not understanding , unless he has experienced it himself he will have no idea what you are going through , what you are feeling. He will be bewildered about what he can do for you but if you can suggest ways for him to help you that would be good , he might feel more in control. My partner buried his head in the sand when I was diagnosed , I was annoyed at first , but I understand now that he just didn't know what to say and he didn't understand what it all meant.

Do you have anyone who could look after your son while you get some "me" time? Have a bath , read a book.....

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   Posted 2/9/2007 5:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Feeling indifferent towards your own child can be a very normal thing. Especially if you are the primary caretaker and stay home with them. Too many people don't see this as work, but IT IS A LOT OF WORK!

I was told this in instruction during my conversion to Catholicism 25 yrs ago...if you never doubt, if you never feel indifferent to God, your faith will never grow, it will stagnate. Being a parent of 6 kids, I believe that the same can be said relationships with all of humanity. If you don't doubt your parental abilities, if you don't have times of indifference and wondering if you care at all...the relationships don't grow. If you never go hungry, you can't appreciate abundance. If you are never broke, you cannot appreciate better times. If you don't have bumpy patches in life, you can't appreciate times when things go better. It is dicotomy of life...always positives with negatives.

Smiler is right about your needing "me" time. I know, I spent years feeling guilty about being good to myself. THink about it, if you are not happy, ain't nobody gonna be happy. You need, you DESERVE to have time alone and you DESERVE to do nice things for yourself, MOST ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like giving to yourself!!! Time away from a child, especially one so energetic and young, will make you a better parent. If you are suffering from postnatal depression, I am sure you will quickly benefit from medication and therapy. This will pass, but I know while you are in it, it seems to go on and on forever. Hang in there, you are not alone. You are taking all the steps towards a better future and I applaud you for this.
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