I appreciate the kind words, and I believe this really IS love. We both do, and I know he never doubts our relationship when he is feeling well. He says he's lucky to have me, and I know I'm lucky to have him :).
I am sorry about your friend not treating you well when it comes to understanding your illness. Have you told him flat out what you think about this?
To your question: I do not believe he went off his medications at all this time, he was just very stressed out during the New Years Weekend, and a lot of his stress had to do with things concerning our relationship. It came on gradually, but neither he nor I took it seriously enough this time. Next time it will be better - I know! I am sure that he took his meds only two days before the new Years weekend. Of course, being in a new relationship is always stressful, I have seen comparisons between being in love and mental illness.... Even though it's positive stress, it's still stress, and can trigger an episode, at least together with all the other factors I mentioned in my first posting.
The second time he broke up with me was while in hospital, they had cut down on his meds too soon, and he was having a relapse. I have told him that if he ever wants to break up with me again, he has to sleep well ten nights in a row and look me in the eyes telling me he doesn't love me. Then and only then will I believe him :)
He knows it's a dealbreaker not to take meds, he has even said it's fine if I remind him of taking them at the regular time, if he is preoccupied. I have known form the start that he will keep taking them. His parents wants him to try something new from Canada that should work well for bipolars, some kind of herbal medicine or something. He is in therapy, and I've offered to go with him, but I'm going to let him decide about that.
I guess sleep is the biggest issue with us, we have had some late nights in our relationship, and I have assured him that from now on, things will be different. No more staying up until 2 or 3 am in the mornings, we can always be together the next day. I don't need that much sleep to function well, but of course it is vital to him.