Post Edited By Moderator (smiler) : 2/19/2007 2:28:02 AM (GMT-7)
When I first found out , my partner wouldn't talk about it , he just buried his head in the sand. It was overwhelming for him , he didn't understand and had never come across anyone with an illness like this.
At first I was angry with him for trying to make out that everything was OK , but then I realised he was just **** scared and didn't know what to do or how to cope. He needed time to get his head around what was going on , and I just give him little bits of info when I think I need to. I think if you give them too much to begin with they are going to go into overload and run in the opposite direction.
I am a bit concerned about him controlling your meds when he doesn't understand your condition.....I think you need the control back. And , if you ever feel like you need to go to the hospital , go - you know yourself better than anyone else.
I'm deleting the other thread now that you've got some responses here , also if your thread ever "slips" off the board with no answers you can "bump" it if you like.
I wish you all the best hun ,
One of the answers a lot of people come up with when asked - what can I do to help , is just to listen. Maybe he goes into his world to process what he's heard , to make sense of it - it's hard for him to understand what it must be like for you , but I think he is trying otherwise he wouldn't be overcompensating to help. Do you think he feels that you shouldn't go into hospital because he might lose you , or that he should have been able to help you rather than asking for help (think men , and asking for directions) , or the realisation that things are that bad. Sorry , I'm rambling , I just wish you all the best - he sounds like a nice guy at heart , I hope you get through this soon.