I'll tell you this about therapists and why I can't say that I blame you for not wanting to go to one. First off...many of them are just plain piss poor. They must think it is a good joke on life to be paid for sitting on their best sides and get paid for just looking at someone. Some of them act like really superior beings because they have that education and since they do, THEY never had an emotional "issue" like POOR PITIFUL YOU. The going trend is to do what is called cognitive behavioral therapy. As far back as 1961, Carl Rogers and his cronies understand from studies that this type of therapy is USELESS to the client, it doesn't work and if it appears to work, the results are not lasting. However, this "technique" is easy on the therapist.
I am of the belief that bipolar people especially, and all people in general, do better with a Rogerian style therapist. They don't think they are superior, they are trying to be real with the client and real with themselves. They are locked in a struggle similar to that of the client and it is real WORK to do this kind of therapy, especially for the therapist. I think it is easier on the client in some ways because they don't actually feel they are working on their issues, but on their own, they ARE solving their problems. It is different and you'll be hard pressed to find a Rogerian because for a therapist it is such hard work.
I am in grad school to be a therapist. Guess my bent? I am finding a lot of negativity with professors and fellow students because I whole heartedly and completely believe in the Rogers' technique. Most of them are rather distant, superior acting beings who are not very interesting and rather closed off. Not "real" at all. IF you decide to try therapy, try to find yourself a Rogerian. Do not be afraid to interview a therapist for 15 to 20 minutes and do it for free and see if you can find one you have a good feeling about. If they won't allow such a free interview, forget them and keep looking.
One can spend many hours with a therapist and come to depend on them, and then cease to be at all dependent, but this is a process that takes time spent together. Don't settle for someone you are not 100% comfortable with. In the room, there are two things going on. One is a client therapist relationship and the other is two people relating to each other as human beings. If you don't feel you will be doing both of these things at once, move on.
ANd um so you know, I have had several extremely poor therapists before happening onto a Rogerian through my homeopath. It changed my life for the better. It took time, about 2.5 yrs, but it was so worth it. I still have a very great deal of love, admiration and respect for my therapist, but I am no longer in therapy. I think of her often and wonder if she understands all she did for me, but then I know she would tell me she was just real with me and I did the work all by myself. Yeah, okay, right...but I am glad I had someone watching me do the work and watching with patience, kindness and yes, even a form of love for me.
Yes Warren, I tell everyone this sort of thing!
The Lady Dragonfly
Yes, it was me...I know because I was there when I did it. Lupus sufferer, bipolar II sufferer. Currently on Indocin for chronic pericarditis related to lupus, and cherishing every deep breath without pain. Currently in graduate school for mental health counseling, class of Fall 2007. Vegan and loving it!