Thanks so much for your reply (once again). I am definitely thinking about talking to him about how I feel. I just started counselling again for myself yesterday w/ a new counsellor. It would help if he talked to someone, I'm not sure if he would, or if he did...he might be resistant to it.
All I am really looking for when I'm not feeling well, is a little comfort. And the counsellor I talked with yesterday pointed out that although my bf is stating "he feels helpless and frustrated", he really can do something, like give me a hug. And that maybe I need to tell him that, make it simple, that a hug would go a long way.
What you said about acknowledging what he is going through with all of this I think is dead on. I believe it's important to acknowledge that this illness is not easy on our partners. And truly b/c we're not on the other side of it, we don't understand what it's like for them. So I really feel it's important to acknowledge that and be understanding. I wasn't doing so well with that when we first moved in together, but now I've really made a point of talking to him about how he's feeling. It just seems now though, that that is all we focus on. about how this stresses him out. There needs to be a balance. And I think if he went to counselling and tried to get an idea of what I'm dealing with (really), we can find that balance.
I am glad to hear that your hubby is going to talk w/someone. He deserves credit for that. Hopefully he puts a lot of effort into it, so you can both feel better.
I've been kinda high (hypomanic) the last couple of days, so we've had a really great week together. I love him so much.
Anyway, thanks again, keep me posted!