I have been married to my wife for ballpark 7 years. We have two children, 5 & 6. When we first got married things were good. Later on I developed an alcohol problem that I refused to deal with for several years. I never physically abused my wife or children, and never had problems at work but nontheless i was a drunk. After being told (2 years ago) by my wife i would lose her and the children I stopped drinking cold turkey. No Games, no bs...just done with it. (And yes..i still am an alcoholic..I will be till I die :( ) Once I sobered up I noticed how bad my relationship with my wife was. I worked hard to repair the damage. Only one problem...things are not getting better. These are the things I have noticed:
2. lack of energy
3. lack of being able to happly interact with me or the kids.
4. mood swings.
5. trouble sleeping
6. no sex drive. (Like we haven't had sex in a year or more...)
7. all she wants to do is play her online games with her online friends and everything else can go hang
8. bursts of anger for no reason
9. weight gain
There has been one sister in law in her family that displayed very similar actions...and she was diagnosed BP. Also her grandmother was an "extremely hard person" as stated by family members. Her mom and I have been pressing her to go see a P-doc but she has been very reluctant to go. She did see our Family Doctor about a year ago and he placed her on Zoloft. He also has been upping the dosage over the last year as well. If i didn't know any better I would thing this drug is agravating the problems.
Finally her mom convinced her to go see the p-doc this coming Wednesday. I hope he can help her. Because if she doesn't get some help soon I am not sure I can handle much more abuse. She told her mom that she takes all her frustrations and annoyances out on me. When I get home from work its the worst. Everything she has been storing up from the kids just gets dropped off to me. I love her. I love the kids. I was raised in a family that stressed you got married, and had kids. And once you did this you stayed to take care of the reposibilities. I am all about that but at what point do I say enough?
She is not the same person I married. I have made mistakes and I am doing my best to make up for it.
darn..this thing got really confusing. Normally I am great at composition. Im not even sure what I am asking anymore.
I read some other posts here and alot of things sound very familiar.
Well thanks in advance.
Ps: I almost hope it is bp...so they can put a name to this and she can get some help!