Thanks for the comfort Honeybee. I guess I will just monitor the situation and use my instincts on this one. I know with my daughter when to take her to the ER, but like you said it is harder with men. Especially hard for him to see there is a situation that we may need assistance with. He does know he is having racing thoughts and feels aggitated, but doesn't get that he is irrational. He also is afraid to tell me when he gets like this because he thinks I'll leave him or something. I told him I wasn't leaving my kid over it, so why would I leave you. He hasn't left me because I get sick from the Lupus. I guess men feel like they have to be okay all the time. Sounds strange to me, but I know most of them have this bravado thing going. Mine is a "man's man" kind of guy so I guess this is hardest for him.
Hope to still hear everyone's thoughts on this. Maybe we can all benefit. Thanks again - Kristin
Post Edited (bpc_christina) : 8/4/2007 3:42:12 PM (GMT-6)
Thanks Christina that will work. Makes sense. Guess you get emotional sometimes with the irrational behavior. Thankfully, it didn't get to that point. He slept all day today and is calmer now. Hopefully this bout is over for now. I'll call the counselor on Monday to see if we need to change medication or if there is another way to comfort him when this happens again.
It is easier with my daughter because she doesn't try to hide it as much. That and she gets very homicidal or suicidal and I know right away to take her in. It is tougher when they are doing very odd things but not threatening any one or themselves. I just can't be there all the time to watch over him and don't want to lose him to the illness. He just got out of the hospital for being suicidal and I'm a little more emotional about it now. Tough to keep it in perspective sometimes.
Thank you - Kristin
The thing is, if you are used to a case that is hospitalized regularly, then it would be more difficult to deal with a case that is right on that "edge". Most cases that I have known did not need hospital inpatient care and did just fine with clinic visits.
When I spoke to my doctor about this (I wanted to go in) he says that insurances don't pay for it unless it is a medical emergency, therefore doctors don't admit people unless they are sure they will get paid. This makes it more difficult for a person who could benefit from inpatient care, but is not a mortal threat to themselves or others.