Hi there mymy28
All of the posts above are correct IMO, until he takes responsibility for his behaviour
you are fighting a losing battle and will get nowhere with him. This is one of the KEY things for people who suffer from BP and their spouses in my opinion. I have hubbie of 21 years who has been suffering from BP for over 25 years.
Please think about
your son and the effect it is having on him. Instead of repeating the same posts there are some very good recent ones that tackle similar issues, especially with children. I posted a couple of replies to a recent post 'New here, husband is BP'. I don't have kids but can give you an honest view of what effect it has had on my hubbie and his family due his dad being undiagnosed BP and never accepting or making an effort to understand that he may be suffering from a mental illness. His family life was a nightmare for many years and now all family members are estranged.
If his behaviour
towards you is escalating in the way you describe you really do need to make a change sooner rather than later. This make shake your hubbie up to the realisation that his behaviour
is not normal. By letting him be this way you are unfortunately adding to the problem. I know this because for many years I did not really 'stand up' to my husband and call him on his treatment or behaviour
towards me and suffered more as a result, as a result he thought it was more normal than it was mostly due to the environment he had been brought up in. You will spend (and waste) your life walking on eggshells and limping from one mood swing to another and your life will not feel like it is your own or in your control. In my experience even with the most successfull treatment (therapy and meds) and acknowledgment by your hubbie your life will still be dominated by the BP at times, but at least if you are in it together you will feel more positive about
staying together and trying to create a better environment for your son and be able to minimise the impact.
Hope this helps.
Post Edited (Honey Bee) : 9/14/2007 4:22:59 PM (GMT-6)