I'm really glad you found us and were able to do some research on what bipolar is and how difficult it can be to manage and for you... most importantly, to be able to find the support that you need to live with someone who has bipolar.
You will find all these answers as you search through our forum. There are people here who live with bipolar, struggle with the ups and downs of bipolar and those that live with people who have bipolar. I am sure some will add to what I want to share with you.
I have bipolar and know how difficult it is to treat but I have learned that I need to manage my illness with medications prescribed by my psychiatrist and to see my therapist regularly.
What I have learned from this forum the most is the difficulties that arise from those that have to live with us. The ones we love... our spouses, our children, ect.
I have learned that they too need to take special care of themselves! They cannot be expected to just deal with the effects of our bi-polar symptoms that most of time come out lashing at them. That they need to take a stand for themselves too! One of the best ways of dealing with a bipolar patient that is not managing their own health is to make them aware of what they need to be doing to get well. #1 Get under a psychiatrist's care and to be diligent about taking their meds. If they refuse that, then you are unable to help them. You could only encourage them to take the right steps and show your support but you don't have live with them especially if they are abusing you verbally or physically. No one needs to put up with that.
I am glad that you have asked him to leave. Now you need to lay your cards on the table and tell him what he needs to do for himself before you will consider supporting him any further.
I don't have all the right words....I have bi-polar and I know what I have to do to continue on a healthy path but like I said, I have learned/realized what it is like for those living with us and my heart goes out to them for staying put and supporting us through all of this. But this couldn't have happened, if I was not ready to actively take a part in it.
Keep checking back for more responses to your post. I know there are many members that totally understand where you are at right now and can offer you some smart advise.
I am glad you are starting to understand what it is like for us who live with bi-polar illness. I am also glad that you are learning to take good care of yourself in the process.
We are here for you.
I wanted to welcome you to the HW family and the Bipolar Forum. I am and happy you found us and are finding the support you are looking for here. Again, welcome.