I have been on HW for a couple months but mostly on the Anxiety board, as the anxiety/panic and agoraphobia are the biggest issues for me right now. But I have just recently been diagnosed as Bipolar, as is my sister.
Here's a little of my son's history for you and then I have a couple questions for you. My son is now 15 and doing very well. However, he has never, ever been an easy child to deal with. He has ADHD, Major Depression w/Psychotic Features (he hears voices) and is on meds for all of those things now.
When he was younger he would throw major fits when he couldn't do or get what he wanted. He would then go tearing through his room and destroy whatever he got his hands on. I remember that during one of those fits he even destroyed a Mother's Day gift that he had made and was going to give me. Yes, over the years, right from when he was little, we had the "I hate you" fits, screaming, hitting, etc. The one thing that I never got from him though was an apology after any of his fits. Once we got him on the Ritalin when he was in 2nd grade, he settled down quite a bit.
But about 5 years ago we started having MAJOR problems again, only this time he was suicidal. He has always been able to be pretty open with me and talks to me a lot about what's going on. Only I didn't see this coming at all, neither did the Social Worker or Therapist who were working closely with us at the time. He was also starting to cut himself and was becoming violent with his sister - he was 10 at that time.
Over the next 6 months, I had to admit him to psych wards 4 times and the last time also landed him in court because I pressed charges against him when he set a fire in my house. Thankfully, no major damage. When we got to court he was taken out of my home and put in placement for almost 2 years, as well as being on probation.
But as horrible as all of this was, it ended up being a blessing in disguise. There were many, many tests done on him - IQ/intelligence tests, psych tests, etc. Many of these were done by the school, others done by the State and the facility he was placed in. He's extremely intelligent, but doesn't apply himself. One of the pysch tests that was done, is for Bipolar - he has some of the traits for it, but not all - so he was not diagnosed with it. But, and as his mother I really hate saying this - it really wouldn't surprise me if he does end up with that diagnosis someday.
During the placement, he learned a lot about himself, learned some coping skills, he's on the right combo of meds now, has been home permanently for 14 months, is off probation and his court case has been closed, and he is doing great now.
Ok, now that my "little bit of history" has turned out to be rather long (I apologize for that), here are my questions for you. Does your daughter act out in any way while at school? If she does, what has been done? Has she ever been tested for anything for anything at all? I know you said she has been seen by one therapist and there aren't too many other child therapists in your area. Have you asked your general doctor or the school guidance counselor for any referrals for psychiatrists that you could take her to? Have you ever kept track of her "fits" or moods to see if there is a pattern of any kind? If you haven't, maybe you should; this would also be good information to give to your doctor, therapist and psychiatrist (if you go that route) you can even find free charts online that you can print and use them for tracking this information. I've actually started doing this for myself to see if I can pick up on any particular pattern or trigger.
Whether or not she has the Bipolar Disorder and I'm certainly not an expert on any of this, I feel you need to see another therapist and/or psychiatrist. I agree with you that something appears wrong, but now you need to be a strong advocate for her and find someone that can help you figure this out. Please know that I am in no way telling you what to do, these are only suggestions and it's all up to you as to what you do.
Please keep posting and let us know how things are going. Take Care.
Agoraphobia, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Panic/Anxiety Disorders, Restless Leg Syndrome, Severe Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea, and Social Anxiety
Meds: Ambien CR, Ativan, Flexeril, Lamictal, Lexapro, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin ER
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