Welcome to the bp forum. In reading your post, I have to say the only way you are ever going to know what's going on, is to get a professional diagnosis. I know that's frustrating for you, but it's the only way to know. We can't self-diagnose. Also, children and teenagers are so different from us adults. Their emotions are all over the place growing up. So it really is hard to say what your daughter is experiencing. Is there any way someone (a doctor...) could refer you to a pdoc outside of your area? Meaning you might have to drive a bit, but if there were help somewhere, it might be worth it.
I'm so sorry for all you are going through, and have been through. I know I was extremely emotional as a child/teen, but who know's what your daughter is experiencing.
We're here for support. I hope things get better for you and your daughter. Please keep in touch, let us know how things are going.
A slip of the foot you may soon recover,
but a slip of the tongue you may never get over.
Hi Wen & everyone! Thanks for sharing some info with me.
To answer your ?? Wen... I was told by the school counsler in kindergarten that she possibly had "selective mutism" which I was told is like extreme shyness. But after meeting with a therapist I was told she had "social anxiety". The symptoms were that she would not talk to or look her teacher in the eye. She kept to herself and didn't play with other children. When called on she just stared and didn't answer the question. They told me to try zoloft. I was reluctant at such a young age. Personally, I think she didn't like her teacher that much! I didn't like her either (but never shared this with her) the zoloft made her the opposite. She was caught jumping over the bathroom stall at school and was banned from that bathroom, she was telling other kids their breath smelled! While sounding funny I knew this could be a problem and took her off it. She then seemed to grow out of the shyness but still preferred playing alone as she still does in 5th grade. Lately she has mentioned she should just kill herself b/c she is so awful and mean to me. I don't know if she is just trying to get a reaction from me or what. Of coarse I am taking it serious. We have an apt. with the therapist that originally put her on zoloft but it is actually now my sons therapist (another story!) We go as a family b/c of issues with their dad who didn't take his meds for bipolar for awhile and became agoraphobic. They didn't see him for 2yrs but now he is back after deciding to take his meds! It has wrecked havoc on all our lives. He is not a nice person and uses my daughter as his confidante. He shares way to much info with her and I am in the process of taking him to court to have visitation changed although I found out it is not easy. He was in and out of psych wards 7 weeks this summer and shared info about his most recent suicide attempt with the kids. My daughter is afraid to upset him for fear he will get depressed and kill himself! She never expresses these outburst with him. Soooo...I think her dad is a big part of the problem. Her brother at 16 decided he doesn't want him in his life but my daughter is afraid to do this. She has been on ADHD med. since school started last month due to her inability to listen and focus but she recently said it makes her depressed!! OMG!! no wonder I am depressed myself!! So sorry to make this so long I just had to get it out. When we go for apt. tue. I am going to insist on getting her an apt for just her. The problem is there is such a long wait list at this facility. So sad that there is no help available. I may take her out of this area. I fear when she does start puberty.
I am so happy to read that your son is doing better. Wow! what a long road you and he had to take. You are right about being their advocates. If it wasn't for your persaverance what might have happened to him??
Raising kids is the most rewarding but toughest job in the world!
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