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olivia of course
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   Posted 10/23/2007 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
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Overall I am feeling a bit better from the food poisoning, although my sides really hurt if I laugh from all the severe cramping and throwing up. As to the ticket issue for "fare evasion", which I feel SO wrongly accused of, I am still quite upset and would like to scream. But, when I am up to it I will have to go to the court and figure this out. I don't feel guilty AT ALL of the minor crime they are accusing me of, but I spoke with a friend and they said I should fight it and say I am "guilty with explanation". But that doesn't feel right to me either. I suppose the officers just assume everyone is a liar, but I don't lie and I was not lying. I had my train ticket, my urgent care release papers...etc. proving everything I was saying was true...AND...it was SO obvious that I had no idea where to get the ticket because I still thought there was a booth with a live human being and I kept asking for directions to that. Plus, I was SO clueless how to pay for this thing, I had to be shown...then again, I was on anti-nausea drugs along with pain killers (again...why I didn't drive myself home!) I was being a responsible human not driving. Silly me for listening to the person from the train station who works there and told me what to do...why should they know what they are talking about. Well, like the old saying....no good deed goes unpunished...is how I am feeling. UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! See, I'm still really upset about this issue. I am thinking about it constantly. Very frustrating. Aren't you glad you asked...LOL...LFW

sukay
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   Posted 10/23/2007 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi LFW,

Hello! How are you today? Has your food poisoning symptoms subsided? I hope so. I hope you are doing much better today. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you. Take care.


~Sukay~
 
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sukay
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   Posted 10/23/2007 9:12 AM (GMT -7)   

LFW

Found other posts for you on another post. Copied and pasted them here for you:

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Uh oh. I missed something. When did you get sick? Why were you taking a train? Why did you get caught for fare evasion? Who in goodness's name would accuse YOU of breaking the law? Did you post this and I'm just forgetful? (Not so surprising really...)

I'm glad you're feeling better, all the same. Rest. Eat jello. That's the only upside to getting sick, in my book. An excuse to eat jello. Any other time and people just look at you funny.


Serafena
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   Posted 10/21/2007 9:21 PM (GMT -6)    VIEW IMAGEVIEW IMAGEVIEW IMAGE
LFW,

I just felt so bad for you that the ticket thing happend when you were sooooo sick. Please let us know how you are keeping up. I am glad that things are a little better, though not perfect. Hang in there, that to shall pass. Thinking if you (((many hugs))) to you.


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loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 10/23/2007 11:16 AM (GMT -7)   
You all are very sweet. I shared when I went on line to the chat Thursday night about my "adventure", so it is understandable how some of the details became fuzzy. In a nutshell this is what happened...

I picked up a relative from LAX who came in from England, took her down to San Diego to our elderly relative celebrating her 86th birthday. While staying my 2 days, I ended up with severe food poisoning from something I brought back to the hotel that I had bought from a local market. So, instead of coming home on schedule, I ended up in a very nice urgent care center in Rancho Bernardo doubled over in pain and extremely ill. I was placed on anti nausea meds, and pain meds. The next day it was determined that I probably should not drive, so I left my car with relatives who would drive it up in a few days. But I felt I should get back to the kids and relieve my husband even if all I could do was lay down. The plan was I would take the train up from San Diego to Union Station in Los Angeles. From there, I take another train into Pasadena where I was to be picked up. When I arrived to Amtrak in San Diego the train was about to leave so I was told to just get on the train and buy my ticket on there (which you could do) or I would miss the train...So...I followed directions and did as instructed. (Now, keep in mind I have never been in union station, or taken either train before.) When I arrived in union station, I asked one of the people who worked there where I am suppose to go and catch this next train...they told me where to go, I asked did I have to do anything...they said no just get on the train. SO, I assumed that I would buy whatever ticket again on the train if need be. As I walked to the new area of the station, I didn't see any place to purchase anything, and the elevator was out to that landing, so I had to climb this very BIG multi level stair case with my bad leg. I arrived just as the train was pulling in. I asked someone up there if this was the train to Pasadena, they said yes, so I got on. I waited for someone to come around so I could purchase my ticket, or check that my other ticket was all I needed, but no one ever came. So I thought I would go to the booth (like Amtrak has with a live person) after, and check if I had needed anything or to pay for a ticket then, as I had no idea. But, when I got off the train and asked someone to direct me to the ticket office, there were some police officers asking for tickets and not letting anyone by who didn’t have their ticket. I tried to explain the situation, how I had never been on the train before, had been attempting to find the ticket office to find out if I had needed a ticket or was my Amtrak ticket all I needed, etc. They asked me for I.D., and got mad at me for getting on the train to begin with without a ticket. All the while I am still asking to direct me to this “booth/office/whatever”, and I was attempting to explain the situation to this guy. I had NO IDEA I was being issued this ticket because when I gave him my I.D., I thought it was to check out if I was on some list/database of people trying to get out of paying and if not, I must be telling the truth. My I.D. has my OLD address on it and the attachment card that was issued by the DMV that has my current address showing the change was still in my wallet. Meanwhile, when I realized what was happening, I told them that I was NOT trying to evade anything; I came off the train looking for where to check if I needed to pay and take care of it as no one came around on the train. Anyway…while all this was going on, I was receiving cell phone calls from my ride asking where I was, no one would listen to what I was saying until this nice bystander came up to me and helped me buy a ticket from this machine. The officer said it didn’t matter I was getting the ticket anyway. I kept saying why, I was not trying to evade anything, I had explained I was trying to take care of this from the beginning…I had been sick, never taken the train before, and was following instructions from the Amtrak person…. The officer said that this was my fault because I listened to the wrong person. Their train is not with Amtrak…..”WHO KNEW?” I got so upset at the end, I called him disgusting for his behavior under the circumstances. He seemed to take GREAT offense to that and started getting angry and putting his hands on his waste near his equipment and was smirking like he was just itching to arrest someone. So I got out of there and headed to my ride. I guess I will actually have to go to court and fight this thing. UGH!!!!!!! I hate this…

As of now, I am still having stomach cramping, but it is mild. I guess it is all still working its way through my system. And now we are dealing with the fires in San Diego where our 86 year old relative lives, and she had to be evacuated, but is refusing to leave the area and come up to my place and wait it out and hope her place survives. She’d rather stay close by…(as if she could do anything!) and given she also has lung issues, is disabled on a walker, and the air quality at the very least is horrid for her down there…she still won’t come, so we have had to keep someone down there with her. On top of all that, my son is very draining to sometimes deal with being a typical 14 year old, added with the BP. He attempts to argue and negotiate EVERYTHING and it is EXHAUSTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is so ridiculous, I feel like the …THE DRAMA NEVER ENDS around me sometimes!!!!!!!!!! SO…all in all I’m fine, but I sure wish things could calm down . Again, thank you all for your concern. As I always say…this too shall pass. I just needed that ticket incident like another hole in MY HEAD!!!!!!!!! And now I have to figure out how to fight this thing so I don’t have to pay $320 to $3200 in fines and have my car insurance go up too boot and affect my record. UGH, UGH, UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LFW

olivia of course
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   Posted 10/23/2007 11:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I am still so sorry about your ticket situation. On the other hand, I am glad you are starting to feel better.
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loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 10/23/2007 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Olivia! LFW

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   Posted 10/23/2007 7:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh my! I hope your family's okay and you're okay too. Be safe out there. I'm worrying for the whole darn southern half of the state. Anyone else in California? Reassure me.
Serafena
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olivia of course
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   Posted 10/26/2007 3:59 AM (GMT -7)   

LFW,

Please keep us updated on how you are feeling and how things are going with you.

Olivia


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   Posted 10/26/2007 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Things here are hectic with all the wild fires. Thus far...THANK HEAVENS all our family in the danger zones have made it through okay; Homes intact. We currently still have a house FULL of relatives waiting for the air to clear and be safe though (especially our 86 year old aunt who is disabled and a total SPITFIRE! She is SO stubborn about so much it makes it a bit challenging.) That is fraught with its OWN challenges. Health wise, felling a bit better finally. No more cramping from the food poisoning last week. However, I still have that ridiculous ticket to contend with...Boo Hoo for me! Anyway...Halloween is just about here, my kidlets are all excited only their costumes haven't arrived yet and I am getting a bit nervous! My daughter was supposed to enter a contest this Saturday in her costume...but if it doesn't arrive...Well, you get the picture...  Anyway, thank you for asking.  How have you been feeling Olivia?  Meds any better?  LFW

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   Posted 10/26/2007 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
LFW,
 
Oh my gosh, I am so glad to hear that you and your family are all fine.  What a horrible time you have been having lately; and you took time to reach out to me through all of this?
 
You are an amazing person, truly.  Your kindness and support are so appreciated.  I am thinking of you and I hope things settle down for you and get better; I know they will.  Many, many hugs....
Mogs
 
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   Posted 10/26/2007 5:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello LFW,
 
Glad to hear you are feeling a little bit better. I'm so sorry to hear what has been happening with all the fires. I am glad that your relatives are ok. I hope your daughters costumes came in.
 
I can understand your frustration with the ticket and wanting to be honest. I'm not going to go into detail, but I got a ticket about 6 years ago for supposedly going around a school bus with it's stop sign activated. So NOT true. The policeman didn't even see what had happened. He was a crossing guard for the school at the corner and some lady started yelling so loudly at him and grabbed EVERYONE'S attention and pointed my car out to him and told him what I supposedly had done. So while she was yelling to him I could see he had his back turned and didn't see anything! He too was wondering what the heck was this lady yelling about as everyone else was too looking all around. I had a co-worker and our kids in the car! Also the school bus was parked, no children inside and no driver inside!
 
Anyway I had a witness come with me to court to fight it and I couldn't believe what happened. The police officer showed up and he completely told a different story to the judge UNDER OATH! I said to him right in front of the judge that he was lying and to remember that he was under oath.
 
Case closed! I lost! I had to pay $250 bucks! My biggest surprise was that a police officer lied under oath. To much a bigger surprise was that when I would share the story with others they WERE'NT surprised that the police officer lied in court!  I was just as furious as you are. That's what we get for being honest! eyes
 
Good luck LFW! I'll be thinkin of you!
 
~Sukay~
 
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loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 10/26/2007 10:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Sukay...I think I will need it. LFW

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   Posted 10/27/2007 10:39 AM (GMT -7)   
LFW,
 
You sure do have a lot on your plate right now and I hope all turns out well for you and your family and that all of your houses and relatives make it ok through the fires.  It's very scary not knowing what's going to happen, but at least you do have your family with you - that's a blessing.
 
I'm also glad to hear that you are feeling so much better after the food poisoning - to have to deal with that on top of everything else - geez louise!!!
 
I hope the whole thing with the ticket works out the right way and that the judge will see what really happened.
 
I wish you and your family the best and hope your daughter's costume came in and that all can have fun with the Halloween festivities.  My daughter is going with my neighbors today to a Halloween event.
 
Many ((((HUGS))))) to you.
 
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Casem
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   Posted 10/28/2007 6:00 AM (GMT -7)   

LFW,

Oh my goodness....I hope you are writing your memoirs, because you would sell a milllion copies. I am so sorry you are going through all of this, but I can see a movie in your future. You certainly seem to be handling this with grace and humor. I love the image of all of your family members in your home finding comfort in each other during the fires. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I think of you every time I watch Fox News. (Yes...I watch Fox News).

While you are enduring your legal woes, I too have had my run in with the law. A few days before I went to Laurelwood, a cop pulled me over for speeding (72 in a 60) and I got a ticket. Mind you...it is in the same city (Euclid) that I drive through twice a day EVERY DAY from home to work and where I saw the horrific accident. My anxiety level increases 300% ever since the accident when I drive by the scene.  There are memorials and you can still see all of the fire residue and there is a huge american flag. I was in the hospital when the court date and pay-by-date expired, so they issued a warrant for my arrest. ON THE WAY HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL....WITH THE BRACELET STILL ON MY WRIST....a state trooper pullled me over (in Euclid again) and gave me another ticket. Obviously, the don't communicate very well, b/c he had no clue about the warrant. Anyway....I had to write a letter to the judge pleading my case, explaining my situation, blah, blah, blah....$300 later....there is no longer a warrant out for my arrest and I have paid for both speeding tickets.

I was dumbfounded by the lack of compassion and common sense regarding the human condition. I am sorry to were in such physical pain and had to endure such ignorance, too.

Stay Strong!


 
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