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Zomese
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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 150
   Posted 10/31/2007 10:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I posted this on the panic/anxiety side also, but I want as much input as possible so I posted it here too.
 
So yesterday I was at work. Some guy came in and was dropping off his business cards. Well he started to flirt with me. I mean shameful flirting. Which I did not reciprocate. I literally felt like I was at a bar being picked up on. He asked me out and I said I was married and wasn't interested. I was very nice about it though. 
 
In the middle of the conversation I started having the "deer in the headlights feeling" like my head was going to jerk or twitch or something. I started losing what he was saying because I think I was on the verge of a panic/anxiety attack. He was making very stong and pointed eye contact with me and kept giving me compliments.
 
It was a very wierd feeling almost like anxiety but different.
 
This has never happened during a one on one conversation before, usually just at church or at business meetings. Now that it has happened I'm afraid it will happen all the time. Ahhhh.
 
So what is this & what do I do? Is this some sort of social anxiety?
 
Thanks

Zomese

28 years old

Bipolar II, Panic Disorder, OCD

Seroquel and Klonopin as needed

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mogli
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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 10/31/2007 1:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Zomese,
 
It could be a type of social anxiety, but maybe just general anxiety, if you felt threatened by this guy's behaviour.  I've been there before.  It's so uncomfortable.  How awful for you, to have the anxiety.
 
But anixety or panic happens anytime we experience something fearful or what our minds perceive as fearful.  When something like that happens it's probably a good idea to take a few minutes to breathe, and calm down.  Even if you couldn't do that until you got home. 
 
You are safe, and it sounds like you handled the situation well.  I know the anxiety is awful.  How is the Seroquel going?
Mogs
 
Bipolar II, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
.5mg Clonazepam, 50mg Trazodone
--Currently not on meds for bp--


Zomese
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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 150
   Posted 10/31/2007 3:48 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Mogli,

The seroquel is going great. I only take it once or twice a week. Thats works really well for me.

I seen my therapist just an hour ago and she said almost the same exact thing you did. Maybe you can be my therapist instead, that will save me trips to the office and save me some money too. tongue

How is school going? I hope you are doing good. Hope to see you in chat tomorrow.

My bipolar is under control for now (I have my fingers crossed) but now this wierd anxiety. I think I may join a panic attack group. Didn't you say you were in a bipolar group that helped?

 


Zomese

28 years old

Bipolar II, Panic Disorder, OCD

Seroquel and Klonopin as needed

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mogli
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Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1191
   Posted 10/31/2007 5:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Zomese,

I was also in an Anxiety Support group right after my bp group.  I definitely recommend it.  Hopefully you can find one and get referred.  I think it would help you a lot.

I'm glad to hear the Seroquel is helping....LOL, I would love to be a therapist, maybe someday...But school is going very well.  I'm still an honor student with 95% average.  And I will definitely be here for the bp chat tomorrow night...Unless something crazy comes up, so hope to see you there as well.

Anyway, gotta go, my Toronto Raptors are playing tonight and the game is back on! yeah Lets go Raptors!

Talk to you soon Zomese :-)


Mogs
 
Bipolar II, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
.5mg Clonazepam, 50mg Trazodone
--Currently not on meds for bp--


serafena
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Total Posts : 3715
   Posted 10/31/2007 5:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Zomese,

I've had it happen in one-on-one convos before too and it is scary!!! You don't want to have a meltdown in front of another person. But it sounds like Mogli hit it right on the head. Try to remember that the panic is really just your "fight or flight" reflex gone wonky. Something inside of you must have really wanted away from this guy. He made you uncomfortable. It's always sort of fun to be hit on, but when it's unwanted it's kind of icky.

From now on, if you are aware that you've had this first attack with another person, you can keep an eye out for it in other conversations. I would say that it probably would only happen when you're feeling "threatened" somehow, but if it does, take that for what it is, and get out of the conversation and go somewhere that feels more "safe," just like Mogli said.

I'm sorry for your attack. Here's an electronic hug to carry around with you. You're always really okay. (((hug))).
Serafena
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum

It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare

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