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Rain
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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 10/9/2008 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
hi this is really hard for me ...sorry but my mother was just diagnosed with breast cancer i am 21 and this is the hardest thing i have had to deal with in my life. what do i need to do that i can help her my mother is the light of my life the one person who is always there when i am sad or hurt.  i want o be her rock what can i do . please keep us in your prayers.

babyseeester
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   Posted 10/9/2008 4:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry to hear about your mother.  What you can do is just be there for her.  Some people handle this diagnosis differently.  It ranges from not wanting to talk about it to telling everyone.  Whatever way she chooses to deal with it, respect her wishes.  Try to keep things as normal as possible.  How old is she?  Do you know what stage cancer it is and what her doctor recommends as far as treatment?  These days there are so many new treatments that it is much more survivable than it used to be.  I hope that whatever treatment she has to go through that it isn't too bad for her.  Let us know how things go.
 
 
L & H,
Kathy


Rain
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   Posted 10/10/2008 12:37 PM (GMT -7)   

my mom is 42 well she went for a mamogram with a lump  under her arm  with a sore breast...they later found out thats cancer is what it is. It runs so thick in my family my grandmother and her mother and all there sisters had it. I now my mother . I am scared that means i havea  really big chance to have this aswell. Right?! And my daughter...right now its just too much so much has happend why must everything hit us all at once??

My father is off work for year or so from a very bad accident my brother is deaf due to a firework accident , i recently have been diagnosed with bi polar ... what next ....


gma
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   Posted 10/13/2008 6:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes, Rain it is possible that you will have breast cancer but certainly not a given. My daughter-in-law's mother was diagnosed in her 40s had a mastectomy and she is in her 90's now. My dil has never been diagnosed nor have her four sisters. So don't worry until you know you have to. I'm sorry your father was hurt so badly. Fireworks are so nasty I don't know why anyone enjoys shooting them off. My sil's stepson lost sight in one eye and has partial sight in another from fireworks.

Take care of yourself,
Hugs MK


x-princess-x-elmo-x
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   Posted 10/26/2008 9:19 AM (GMT -7)   
I was 12 when my mum was diagnosed with cancer. She collapsed and was rushed to hospital with the paramedics thinking it was a slipped disk. When we were told it was cancer, it was quite hard hitting (as it would be in any situation) The thing is... my mum died 8 months later as they had caught it too late but me being so young at the time, didn't relises that there could have been consiquences like there was. I argued with my mum so many time, and ignored her when she asked me to do something (because I didn't understand) 6 years on & now I am 18, I really wish I could turn back time. I wondered why, that because she couldn't walk as well as she used to, I treated her any differently. Now that I am 18, I have been advised to go to the doctors and get scans and tests to see if I also have cancer so it can be caugh it in the earliest of stages (I would advise you to go the the doctors and ask to get tested regularly because it does run in your family) All I can say is don't let little problems ruine your relationship & alway live life to the full because you never know whats round the corner. (My thoughts are with you, your mum & family at this hard time. If she see's you being stong and possitive for her, she will do the same. Don't be afraid to have fun at this time too!
x-princess-x-elmo-x


Brnadebt
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   Posted 10/28/2008 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Rain

I lost my own mother at age 28 to cancer, so I can give you a little advice. First and foremost try to be of help to her all the time. She will be tired but will not want everyone to know it. Do things around the house to help her. Talk to her about your feelings, she will be having some tough times dealing with this so talk talk talk.

Are you seeing a counselor for all of this?? Being bi-polar you need to be dillagent on taking your meds and make sure you talk to your Dr if you don't feel better. Keep posting here it really helps to talk to others that are in the same boat.

L&H Bernadette
 
 

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